My mother wants me to marry a relative, but I want to marry someone else. Is it permissible to disobey her?

Question:
May Allah reward you, Your Eminence, father. The questioner says: I am a young man who wants to get married, and my mother wants me to marry a relative. They have asked for a bridal gift that I cannot afford. Is it obligatory for me to obey my mother in this matter, especially since I am in need of marriage? May I disobey her in this matter and marry a woman other than the one my mother wants?

Answer:
The default is that you must seek understanding with her and convince her. Convince her of your situation, and I do not think that if you convince her, she will object to this. But the matter is one of understanding and not of hostility between you and her, or of you insisting on your opinion while she insists on hers. There is no understanding. Be the best and try with her in the best manner until she is convinced. Yes.