Her father delays her marriage, so what is obligatory for her, and advice to guardians to fear Allah regarding their daughters
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Question:
We return to a message received by the program from Jeddah, sent by a female listener who asked several questions, some of which we addressed in a previous episode. In this session, she says: Honorable Shaykh, I have reached the age of twenty-two, and I have not yet married. My father plays a major role in delaying this marriage for circumstances I do not know. In reality, my situation in my family home is difficult, and I desire marriage. How should I act given the situation described? Is it permissible for me to go to the court to present my case? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions.
To proceed: It is obligatory for the guardians of women to hasten to marry them off when a suitable suitor comes to them, based on the saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) How many [Al-Anfal 8:73]. And because delaying the marriage of a young woman harms her, causes her to lose years of her life, and causes her to lose the suitor's desire for her, resulting in great harm to her.
Therefore, it is obligatory for the guardians of women to fear Allah. And they should hasten to marry them off when someone comes whose religion and trustworthiness they are pleased with, by arranging for the woman a match who is good in terms of religion, and in terms of trustworthiness and reliability, and who is trusted with these women, because this is the very interest of the woman. It is not permissible for the guardian to look at worldly matters. And he... in the marriage of his ward... for his own benefit... from expenses... for his own benefit... by having her serve him, or by... equalizing... upon her... and... great... either by... exploiting her salary... if she... employed her... or other excuses that he uses as pretexts.
No, for this is a betrayal of the trust, and a squandering of the future of these poor women, and a harm to them. And if it is known about a man that he prevents his ward from marrying, and he becomes a defender against the suitors who come to her, then his guardianship over her is removed, and it transfers to... this is... from or... regarding her prevention. Because this...
So if he becomes an obstacle, and Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) says: "Do not make them a source of hardship," and[Al-Baqarah 2:232], and this is a great sin among the major sins, because it is injustice to the woman and mistreatment of her. So it is obligatory for these men to fear Allah regarding their wards, and to look at their interest, not their own interest, and to marry them to suitable suitors through whom the obligation is fulfilled and trust is achieved. This is what is obligatory upon them, and this is their responsibility. As for what the questioner mentioned about her father’s stubbornness and his lack of desire to marry her off, and his procrastination until she reached this age and caused her to lose a part of her life, a large part of her life, then this is a great error. And she has the right to ask another of the guardians to look into her matter and speak with her, either that he acts justly and fulfills the obligation, or that his guardianship is removed from her and he marries her off to someone other than him from her male relatives, from her closest male relatives. And if the matter requires that she go to the court to remove the injustice from her, then she has the right to do so.
We return to a message received by the program from Jeddah, sent by a female listener who asked several questions, some of which we addressed in a previous episode. In this session, she says: Honorable Shaykh, I have reached the age of twenty-two, and I have not yet married. My father plays a major role in delaying this marriage for circumstances I do not know. In reality, my situation in my family home is difficult, and I desire marriage. How should I act given the situation described? Is it permissible for me to go to the court to present my case? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions.
To proceed: It is obligatory for the guardians of women to hasten to marry them off when a suitable suitor comes to them, based on the saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him)
If there comes to you one whose religion and trustworthiness you are pleased with, then marry him to her, except
إذا أتاكم من ترضون دينه وأمانته فزوجوه، إلاDo it
افعلواfitnah on earth and great corruption.
فِتْنَةٌ فِي الْأَرْضِ وَفَسَادٌ كَبِيرٌTherefore, it is obligatory for the guardians of women to fear Allah. And they should hasten to marry them off when someone comes whose religion and trustworthiness they are pleased with, by arranging for the woman a match who is good in terms of religion, and in terms of trustworthiness and reliability, and who is trusted with these women, because this is the very interest of the woman. It is not permissible for the guardian to look at worldly matters. And he... in the marriage of his ward... for his own benefit... from expenses... for his own benefit... by having her serve him, or by... equalizing... upon her... and... great... either by... exploiting her salary... if she... employed her... or other excuses that he uses as pretexts.
No, for this is a betrayal of the trust, and a squandering of the future of these poor women, and a harm to them. And if it is known about a man that he prevents his ward from marrying, and he becomes a defender against the suitors who come to her, then his guardianship over her is removed, and it transfers to... this is... from or... regarding her prevention. Because this...
So if he becomes an obstacle, and Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) says: "Do not make them a source of hardship," and
remarrying their [former] husbands if they agree among themselves on an acceptable basis
يَنكِحْنَ أَزْوَاجَهُنَّ إِذَا تَرَاضَوْا بَيْنَهُم بِالْمَعْرُوفِ
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 4878- والدها يؤخر زواجها فما الذي يجب عليها، ونصيحة لأولياء الأمور بتقوى الله في بناتهن — youtube.com
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