What is the ruling on forcing daughters to marry a specific man?
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Question:
As for the first question of this evening, the questioner says: Your Eminence the Shaykh, is there any advice for those who force their daughters to marry someone they do not desire, especially in the southern regions?
Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, and may peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah. There is no doubt that Allah has given the father guardianship over his daughter, so he is the closest of the guardians to her. However, it is obligatory for him to look at her benefit, and not to marry her off except to a suitable, righteous man whom she is pleased with. These are the two conditions: that the suitor is a suitable, righteous man, and that the woman being proposed to is pleased with him. If one of these two conditions is lacking, this marriage is not permissible.
If the man who proposes is not righteous, it is not permissible to marry her to him, even if she is pleased with him; even if she is pleased, it is not permissible. The second condition: if he is a suitable, righteous man, this is the first condition, and she is pleased with him. If she is not pleased with him, it is not permissible for him to force her to marry him; rather, she has the choice. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1107Sahih (Darussalam) and her permission is her silence, and Sunan Ibn Majah 1871Sahih (Darussalam).
He gave the daughter the choice, whether she is a virgin or a previously married woman, so it is not permissible for her father to force her to marry someone she is not pleased with.
As for the first question of this evening, the questioner says: Your Eminence the Shaykh, is there any advice for those who force their daughters to marry someone they do not desire, especially in the southern regions?
Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, and may peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah. There is no doubt that Allah has given the father guardianship over his daughter, so he is the closest of the guardians to her. However, it is obligatory for him to look at her benefit, and not to marry her off except to a suitable, righteous man whom she is pleased with. These are the two conditions: that the suitor is a suitable, righteous man, and that the woman being proposed to is pleased with him. If one of these two conditions is lacking, this marriage is not permissible.
If the man who proposes is not righteous, it is not permissible to marry her to him, even if she is pleased with him; even if she is pleased, it is not permissible. The second condition: if he is a suitable, righteous man, this is the first condition, and she is pleased with him. If she is not pleased with him, it is not permissible for him to force her to marry him; rather, she has the choice. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
a virgin should not be given in marriage until her permission is sought
لا تنكح البكر حتى تستأذنA previously-married woman should not be married until she is consulted
لا تنكح الثيب حتى تستأمرHe gave the daughter the choice, whether she is a virgin or a previously married woman, so it is not permissible for her father to force her to marry someone she is not pleased with.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، ما حكم إجبار البنات على زوج بعينه؟ للشيخ الفوزان — youtube.com (0:21)
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