What is the ruling on slaughtering animals at the house of the deceased for the condolence gathering?

Question:
The questioner says: It is the custom of the people in our village that when someone dies, they gather at the deceased's house on the pretext that they are forgetting the family's grief. They slaughter animals with obvious extravagance. If the family of the deceased refuses these feasts, they become angry with them and say that it is intended for the deceased. What is the ruling on this?

Answer:
If they come for the purpose of the condolence, they come for the purpose of slaughtering and eating. If they become angry because nothing was slaughtered for them or food was not served to them, then they came to eat. This action is not permissible. Gathering with the family of the deceased and preparing food is not permissible, because it leads to further issues, and also...
It puts the family in a difficult position, and it may burden them with debt. They may take from the deceased's estate, which has small children and orphans, and eat from it without right. Therefore, abandoning this is obligatory. Abandoning this gathering and the preparation of these foods is obligatory, and doing it is not permissible. This is based on the statement of Jarir ibn Abdullah, the noble Companion (may Allah be pleased with him), who said: "We used to consider gathering with the family of the deceased and preparing food to be part of wailing (niyahah)." By his saying "we used to," he meant the Companions (may Allah be pleased with them). These are matters that must be abandoned; they are customs that must be abandoned. Yes.