The ruling on exaggerating in lying to one's wife, and whether this applies to what exceeds her rights or includes her obligatory rights?
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The questioner:
This, Honorable Shaykh, the third type of lying you mentioned, lying to one's wife, actually requires a separate explanation, because some husbands have hatched and incubated around it, so they keep telling their wives lies, thinking they are within the permissible limit. Is that so?
The Shaykh:
If this pleases her and improves the relationship with her, there is nothing wrong with it.
The questioner:
No matter how much he lies.
The Shaykh:
On the condition that he does not wrong her or deprive her of any of her rights, but rather he promises her that he will do such and such, doing something in addition to her rights. As for her rights, they are obligatory; one must fulfill her rights as a wife. Yes.
The questioner:
For example, he does not tell her about his enjoyment and comfort outside so that he may please her, saying that he did not have dinner or that his gathering was not pleasant, when that is not the case, because he does not want to leave her alone. Then he says, "I was in a gathering of enjoyment, dinner, and companionship." Is this among the lies permissible for him?
The Shaykh:
For example, he says, "I do not find comfort except with you, and I do not love any food except what you cook," and so on, what he says to her in order to encourage her and to monitor her in being good in her relationship with him.
The presenter:
Praise be to Allah. May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh:
Yes.
This, Honorable Shaykh, the third type of lying you mentioned, lying to one's wife, actually requires a separate explanation, because some husbands have hatched and incubated around it, so they keep telling their wives lies, thinking they are within the permissible limit. Is that so?
The Shaykh:
If this pleases her and improves the relationship with her, there is nothing wrong with it.
The questioner:
No matter how much he lies.
The Shaykh:
On the condition that he does not wrong her or deprive her of any of her rights, but rather he promises her that he will do such and such, doing something in addition to her rights. As for her rights, they are obligatory; one must fulfill her rights as a wife. Yes.
The questioner:
For example, he does not tell her about his enjoyment and comfort outside so that he may please her, saying that he did not have dinner or that his gathering was not pleasant, when that is not the case, because he does not want to leave her alone. Then he says, "I was in a gathering of enjoyment, dinner, and companionship." Is this among the lies permissible for him?
The Shaykh:
For example, he says, "I do not find comfort except with you, and I do not love any food except what you cook," and so on, what he says to her in order to encourage her and to monitor her in being good in her relationship with him.
The presenter:
Praise be to Allah. May Allah reward you.
The Shaykh:
Yes.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 5067- حكم التوسع في الكذب على الزوجة وهل يكون في ما زاد عن حقها أم يشمل حقوقها الواجبة؟ — youtube.com
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