What is the ruling on a husband reminding his wife of his taking her for Hajj at his own expense? And if she has an income, does she perform Hajj from her money or from her husband's money?
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Question:
There is a husband who took his wife with him to perform the obligatory Hajj at his own expense, because the wife has no income, but she is a housewife. After they returned from performing the obligation, whenever there is a quarrel or dispute between them, he says to her, "I took you for Hajj," and she says to him, "It is your right upon me after serving you and giving birth to the children." What is your opinion (may Allah reward you with good) in that, and what do you advise them? May Allah reward you with good. And if the wife has an income, is it permissible for her to perform Hajj from her husband's money, or does she perform it from her own money? Please guide us. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
There is no doubt that Hajj is obligatory for a woman under two conditions. The first condition is that she is able to afford it, meaning she has the money to cover the expenses of Hajj, going and returning. The second condition is the presence of a mahram (a relative one may not marry) who accompanies her on Hajj. If these two conditions are met, the Hajj of Islam becomes obligatory upon her as a fard (obligatory duty). As for anything other than the Hajj of Islam, it is voluntary. If she does not have money, or if she has money and her husband takes her for Hajj, that is a favor from him. It is not obligatory for him to take her for Hajj or to spend on her for Hajj; rather, this is a favor from him, and may Allah reward him with good. However, it is not permissible for him to remind her of it afterwards and embarrass her on every occasion, because this invalidates his reward. Allah the Exalted said:[Al-Baqarah 2:264].
So this one who took his wife for Hajj and treated her well has done well. This is preserving his charity towards her. It may not be permissible for him to invalidate it by reminding her of it and harming her, because that invalidates his reward. May Allah reward you with good, and may Allah reward you.
There is a husband who took his wife with him to perform the obligatory Hajj at his own expense, because the wife has no income, but she is a housewife. After they returned from performing the obligation, whenever there is a quarrel or dispute between them, he says to her, "I took you for Hajj," and she says to him, "It is your right upon me after serving you and giving birth to the children." What is your opinion (may Allah reward you with good) in that, and what do you advise them? May Allah reward you with good. And if the wife has an income, is it permissible for her to perform Hajj from her husband's money, or does she perform it from her own money? Please guide us. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
There is no doubt that Hajj is obligatory for a woman under two conditions. The first condition is that she is able to afford it, meaning she has the money to cover the expenses of Hajj, going and returning. The second condition is the presence of a mahram (a relative one may not marry) who accompanies her on Hajj. If these two conditions are met, the Hajj of Islam becomes obligatory upon her as a fard (obligatory duty). As for anything other than the Hajj of Islam, it is voluntary. If she does not have money, or if she has money and her husband takes her for Hajj, that is a favor from him. It is not obligatory for him to take her for Hajj or to spend on her for Hajj; rather, this is a favor from him, and may Allah reward him with good. However, it is not permissible for him to remind her of it afterwards and embarrass her on every occasion, because this invalidates his reward. Allah the Exalted said:
O you who have believed, do not invalidate your charities with reminders or injury
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تُبْطِلُوا صَدَقَاتِكُم بِالْمَنِّ وَالْأَذَىٰSo this one who took his wife for Hajj and treated her well has done well. This is preserving his charity towards her. It may not be permissible for him to invalidate it by reminding her of it and harming her, because that invalidates his reward. May Allah reward you with good, and may Allah reward you.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، ماحكم تمنين الزوج زوجنه بأخذها للحج على نفقته وإذا كان لها دخل فهل تحج من مالها أم من مال زوجها؟ — youtube.com
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