When one of us dies, the women go to the other women and weep, sometimes raising their voices. Is what we do correct?
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In our country, when someone from the village dies, the women go to the other women and weep with them. This continues for two days, and then we return and recite al-Fatihah for the deceased. Is what we do in that case correct? Please note that the weeping is sometimes done with a loud voice.
Answer:
This is not weeping; this is wailing. Gathering for the sake of weeping, or for the sake of raising voices in distress over the deceased, is wailing. It is one of the practices of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance (jahiliyyah), and it is a major sin among the major sins. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) disavowed the one who slaps her cheeks, the one who tears her clothes, and the one who cuts her hair, before it happened or regarding her garment in the event of a calamity. He said (peace and blessings be upon him)Sahih Muslim 934 Sahih Muslim 934 made of pitch, and a coat of mail, and that is because of the severity of her torment, refuge with Allah. So wailing is a major sin among the major sins. As for mere weeping without wailing and without raising the voice, there is no harm in it. It is mercy for the deceased, which Allah places in the hearts of His servants. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) wept, and he said Sahih Muslim 924 (peace and blessings be upon him) or he showed mercy.
So visiting the family of the deceased, if it is for the sake of consoling them in their loss and comforting them, there is no harm in it. And if it is to encourage them to be patient and seek reward, there is no harm in it. But if it is for the sake of wailing and displaying distress, this is a forbidden matter, and it is cooperation in sin and transgression. Indeed, Allah the Exalted and Majestic said:[Al-Ma'idah 5:2] As for reciting al-Fatihah for the souls of the dead, it is a religious innovation (bid'ah) for which Allah has not sent down any authority. So do not recite for the dead, neither al-Fatihah nor any other part of the Qur'an, because there is no evidence from the Shari'ah for it. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: Sahih Muslim 1718b This is an act that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) did not command. In a narration, it says: "Whoever introduces into our affair something that is not part of it, it is rejected." This is an innovation in the Shari'ah that is not from the Shari'ah. So reciting al-Fatihah or reciting anything other than al-Fatihah for the souls of the dead, whether at the funeral, at the grave, or after that, by reciting the Qur'an and sending it to the deceased, all of this has no evidence for it. Yes.
In our country, when someone from the village dies, the women go to the other women and weep with them. This continues for two days, and then we return and recite al-Fatihah for the deceased. Is what we do in that case correct? Please note that the weeping is sometimes done with a loud voice.
Answer:
This is not weeping; this is wailing. Gathering for the sake of weeping, or for the sake of raising voices in distress over the deceased, is wailing. It is one of the practices of the pre-Islamic age of ignorance (jahiliyyah), and it is a major sin among the major sins. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) disavowed the one who slaps her cheeks, the one who tears her clothes, and the one who cuts her hair, before it happened or regarding her garment in the event of a calamity. He said (peace and blessings be upon him)
If the wailing woman does not repent before she dies, she will be made to stand on the Day of Resurrection wearing a garment
النَّائِحَةُ إِذَا لَمْ تَتُبْ قَبْلَ مَوْتِهَا تُقَامُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ وَعَلَيْهَا سِرْبَالٌof pitch and a chemise
من قطران، ودرع منAllah does not punish for the tears that the eye sheds or the grief the heart feels, but He punishes for this (pointing to his tongue)
إن الله لا يعذب بدمع العين ولا بحزن القلب، وإنما يعذب بهذا، وأشار إلى لسانهSo visiting the family of the deceased, if it is for the sake of consoling them in their loss and comforting them, there is no harm in it. And if it is to encourage them to be patient and seek reward, there is no harm in it. But if it is for the sake of wailing and displaying distress, this is a forbidden matter, and it is cooperation in sin and transgression. Indeed, Allah the Exalted and Majestic said:
And cooperate in righteousness and piety, but do not cooperate in sin and aggression. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is severe in penalty.
وَتَعَاوَنُوا عَلَى الْبِرِّ وَالتَّقْوَىٰ وَلَا تَعَاوَنُوا عَلَى الْإِثْمِ وَالْعُدْوَانِ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ شَدِيدُ الْعِقَابِWhoever does
من عملany act for which there is no sanction from our behalf, that is to be rejected
عملا ليس عليه أمرنا فهو رد،
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، عندما يتوفى ميت لأحدنا فإن النساء يذهبن إلى النساء، ويبكون مع رفع الصوت أحياناً، هل ما نفعله صحيح؟ — youtube.com
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