How does a Muslim raise his children?

The questioner:
Thank you, Abu 'Abdullah. We will take another call with us.

The Shaykh:
You see apostasy in it.

The questioner:
All right, may Allah reward you, yes. All right, Honorable Shaykh, this man says that some men say about themselves that Allah has tested them with this matter, such as saying, "He has tested me with these sons and their undutifulness to me."

The Shaykh:
Yes, trials occur, and Allah tests people through their children and offspring. The Exalted and Majestic is He says: Trials do occur, but the believer is patient with the trial and works to remove the trial and the test.
So the trial with children is treated by raising them on good, accustoming them to righteousness from a young age, and raising them step by step. One attends to them from childhood until they grow up on good and obedience, and keeps them away from bad companions and bad associates. The Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said: This is evidence for raising children on obedience from a young age, from the age of seven, when they can distinguish right from wrong, until they grow up with it and become accustomed to it. Also, when they reach ten years of age, they are disciplined for disobedience in a way that deters them, and their sleeping places are separated so that they are not left to sleep all together in close proximity in their beds, because this causes fitnah (trial, discord or temptation) between them, as they will be adolescents or have reached puberty, and fitnah will occur due to free mixing. This is among the evidence for preventing free mixing between men and women, even if they are brothers, if the free mixing causes fitnah. Then the men are kept separate and the women are kept separate in their beds, or in their gatherings, or in their work. Yes.