What is the response to the argument using the hadith of the woman who was weeping at her son's grave to prove the permissibility of women visiting graves?

Question:
He says: A hadith was narrated from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) that he found her son, so he forbade her from weeping and commanded her to be patient, but he did not forbid her from being in the cemetery. He asks: How is the answer to this?

Answer:
He was not in the cemetery; the grave is nearby, he was not in the cemetery. She was sitting outside the cemetery near it, and the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) passed by her and forbade her, but she did not recognize him. She said, "Leave me alone, for you have not been afflicted with my affliction." When the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) left, they told him, "This is the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him)." So she felt ashamed and regretted it. She went to the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him), apologized to him, and said, "Now I will be patient, O Messenger of Allah?" He said, "Patience is at the first shock." Yes, indeed.