The Cause of the Mother-in-Law's Jealousy and Its Remedy
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The questioner:
Why is there this jealousy between mothers-in-law and their sons' wives, Shaykh Salih? What cuts off its root, brings affection to the families, and ends this estrangement? May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
This jealousy is among the natural dispositions of women.
The presenter:
And the soul twice.
The Shaykh:
And because of their weakness, Satan takes advantage of them, exploiting this jealousy to stoke discord among women. This jealousy is addressed through good treatment, faith, and mindfulness of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He), and by doing good to the one who does wrong, as Allah the Exalted said:[Fussilat 41:34] If this applies to people in general, how much more so does it apply to relatives or companions? This is the decisive cure for this problem: to meet wrongdoing with kindness. One must also exercise patience and endurance, and a person should not seek revenge for himself or try to avenge himself, but rather be patient and endure. When his opponent sees this from him, he will remove the hostility in his heart, as Allah the Exalted said: [Fussilat 41:34]
Why is there this jealousy between mothers-in-law and their sons' wives, Shaykh Salih? What cuts off its root, brings affection to the families, and ends this estrangement? May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
This jealousy is among the natural dispositions of women.
The presenter:
And the soul twice.
The Shaykh:
And because of their weakness, Satan takes advantage of them, exploiting this jealousy to stoke discord among women. This jealousy is addressed through good treatment, faith, and mindfulness of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He), and by doing good to the one who does wrong, as Allah the Exalted said:
And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend.
وَلَا تَسْتَوِي الْحَسَنَةُ وَلَا السَّيِّئَةُ ادْفَعْ بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ فَإِذَا الَّذِي بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهُ عَدَاوَةٌ كَأَنَّهُ وَلِيٌّ حَمِيمٌand thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend.
فَإِذَا الَّذِي بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهُ عَدَاوَةٌ كَأَنَّهُ وَلِيٌّ حَمِيمٌ
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 4917- ملاطفة الزوجة لأم زوجها وترك منازعتها وسد مداخل الشيطان بينهما - الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com (0:59)
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