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A young man wants to marry, but his father refuses until his younger brother finishes his studies so he can marry them both; is there a sin on his father for doing so?

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Question:
I have another brother who is twenty-three years old, and he wants to get married, but my father refuses to let him marry until the third brother, who is younger than him, finishes his studies, and then he will marry the two of them together, for the sake of helping with the economic situation, costs, and expenses, and perhaps for another reason I do not know. Does my father have any sin for not arranging my brother's marriage despite his strong desire to marry? Please inform us, may Allah reward you, and I ask you to clarify this matter to me greatly, because I am in dire need of it. May Allah reward you with good.

Answer:
I mean, the father should take the initiative to arrange his son's marriage; he must protect him from falling into what is forbidden, and because of his saying:
God’s Messenger as saying, “Young man, those of you who can support a wife should marry, for it keeps you from looking at strange women and preserves you from immorality; but those whoصلى الله عليه وسلم يا معشر الشباب من استطاع منكم الباءة فليتزوج فإنه أغض للبصر وأحسن لفرج من لم يستطع فعليه
Mishkat al-Masabih 3080
with longing. This father should take the initiative to marry his son and not delay it. No, no. Or delay his marriage on the pretext that he wants to marry him with his brother. Ah. Rather, he must take the initiative to arrange his marriage and seek help from Allah wherever he finds it.
If the marriage of his brother is present, then he should marry him at his time. The important thing is that he does not delay anything past its time, because that has a bad effect on the behavior of this son, and he may fall into what is forbidden, especially young men. And he should seize the opportunity to marry this son, as it is a protection for him, a safeguard for him, and fulfilling the obligation that is upon his father toward him.

The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good. Is reliance on Allah in this matter important? Is it a means? There is no doubt that the initiative of fathers to marry their sons and daughters when they need to marry, or is it obligatory and required with the ability? May Allah reward you with good.
Source قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، شاب يريد الزواج ولكن والده يمانع حتى ينهي أخاه الأصغر دراسته ليزوجهما معاً فهل على والده إثم في ذلك؟ — youtube.com

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