A man tries to reconcile his parents when they quarrel, but sometimes he raises his voice at them. What is the guidance?
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Question:
Sultan from al-Bahah is with us. Yes. Peace be upon you, and Allah’s mercy and blessings. And upon you be peace, and Allah’s mercy and blessings. How are you, Uncle Khalid? May Allah welcome you. Please, go ahead. Here you go, Shaykh Salih. May Allah welcome you. Shaykh, I have a question, just one. The first question, I mean, an inquiry, and I want to know the extent of the seriousness of this matter. My mother has diabetes and high blood pressure, and my father has high blood pressure. So my mother raises her voice at my father and so on. I try to mediate between them, but the problem comes back to me. So my mother turns on me and curses and swears at me. I get upset and annoyed, and so on, and some of the voice gets raised. Okay, thank you, Sultan. Please, Shaykh, the first question is about the parents and raising the voice, and your mother.
Answer:
Regarding the parents: the question is about the parents. Be kind to them, do not raise your voice at them, and do not get angry with them. Allah the Exalted said:[Al-Isra 17:23] So be gentle with them and lower your voice. [Al-Isra 17:24] So lower your voice and be dutiful to them. Do not grow weary of being dutiful to them or become annoyed by it, for this is their right and what is required of you.
Sultan from al-Bahah is with us. Yes. Peace be upon you, and Allah’s mercy and blessings. And upon you be peace, and Allah’s mercy and blessings. How are you, Uncle Khalid? May Allah welcome you. Please, go ahead. Here you go, Shaykh Salih. May Allah welcome you. Shaykh, I have a question, just one. The first question, I mean, an inquiry, and I want to know the extent of the seriousness of this matter. My mother has diabetes and high blood pressure, and my father has high blood pressure. So my mother raises her voice at my father and so on. I try to mediate between them, but the problem comes back to me. So my mother turns on me and curses and swears at me. I get upset and annoyed, and so on, and some of the voice gets raised. Okay, thank you, Sultan. Please, Shaykh, the first question is about the parents and raising the voice, and your mother.
Answer:
Regarding the parents: the question is about the parents. Be kind to them, do not raise your voice at them, and do not get angry with them. Allah the Exalted said:
say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.
فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًاAnd lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy
وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، رجل يحاول أن يصلح بين أبويه إذا تشاجرا، ويحصل منه رفع الصوت عليهما أحيانا، فما التوجيه؟ — youtube.com
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