The ruling on the one who swore an oath that his wife would not contact her relatives, but she did contact them and then informed him
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Question:
The first message in this episode is one that reached the program from one of our sisters in Allah. She says: Your sister in Allah, Noon Shin. Our sister has a number of issues; in one of them, she says: A woman’s husband swore that she would not contact her relatives by phone without his permission, because she must use a zero (long-distance code) since her relatives live in another city. However, she contacted them several times without asking his permission. She is remembering the oath he swore over her, and it is an ordinary oath, not a divorce. Then she informed him afterward of what she did. Does she owe an expiation, or what is obligatory for her? Please inform us. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, and may peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah, and upon his family and his Companions. As for what follows, spouses should not be strict with their wives or put them in a difficult position to the extent mentioned by the questioner. For a telephone call with her relatives and kin is among the matters she needs, and it may be among the necessary matters. One should be lenient in such matters. As for what the questioner mentioned, that he swore over her, what?
That she would not speak to her relatives without his permission, but she needed to and spoke to her relatives without his permission. It is obligatory for the husband to perform the expiation for the oath, which is feeding ten poor people, giving each poor person half a sa' (a dry measure of about 3 kg) of food, which is the amount of one and a half kilograms for each poor person, or clothing ten poor people, giving each poor person a garment, or freeing a slave. If he does not find any of these three things, he fasts for three days. Allah the Exalted said:[Al-Ma'idah 5:89] Yes.
The first message in this episode is one that reached the program from one of our sisters in Allah. She says: Your sister in Allah, Noon Shin. Our sister has a number of issues; in one of them, she says: A woman’s husband swore that she would not contact her relatives by phone without his permission, because she must use a zero (long-distance code) since her relatives live in another city. However, she contacted them several times without asking his permission. She is remembering the oath he swore over her, and it is an ordinary oath, not a divorce. Then she informed him afterward of what she did. Does she owe an expiation, or what is obligatory for her? Please inform us. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, and may peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah, and upon his family and his Companions. As for what follows, spouses should not be strict with their wives or put them in a difficult position to the extent mentioned by the questioner. For a telephone call with her relatives and kin is among the matters she needs, and it may be among the necessary matters. One should be lenient in such matters. As for what the questioner mentioned, that he swore over her, what?
That she would not speak to her relatives without his permission, but she needed to and spoke to her relatives without his permission. It is obligatory for the husband to perform the expiation for the oath, which is feeding ten poor people, giving each poor person half a sa' (a dry measure of about 3 kg) of food, which is the amount of one and a half kilograms for each poor person, or clothing ten poor people, giving each poor person a garment, or freeing a slave. If he does not find any of these three things, he fasts for three days. Allah the Exalted said:
Allah will not impose blame upon you for what is meaningless in your oaths, but He will impose blame upon you for [breaking] what you intended of oaths. So its expiation is the feeding of ten needy people from the average of that which you feed your [own] families or clothing them or the freeing of a slave. But whoever cannot find [or afford it] - then a fast of three days [is required]. That is the expiation for oaths when you have sworn. But guard your oaths. Thus does Allah make clear to you His verses that you may be grateful.
لَا يُؤَاخِذُكُمُ اللَّهُ بِاللَّغْوِ فِي أَيْمَانِكُمْ وَلَٰكِن يُؤَاخِذُكُم بِمَا عَقَّدتُّمُ الْأَيْمَانَ فَكَفَّارَتُهُ إِطْعَامُ عَشَرَةِ مَسَاكِينَ مِنْ أَوْسَطِ مَا تُطْعِمُونَ أَهْلِيكُمْ أَوْ كِسْوَتُهُمْ أَوْ تَحْرِيرُ رَقَبَةٍ فَمَن لَّمْ يَجِدْ فَصِيَامُ ثَلَاثَةِ أَيَّامٍ ذَٰلِكَ كَفَّارَةُ أَيْمَانِكُمْ إِذَا حَلَفْتُمْ وَاحْفَظُوا أَيْمَانَكُمْ كَذَٰلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ آيَاتِهِ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَشْكُرُونَ
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 4337- الحكم في حق من حلف على زوجته أن لا تتصل بأهلها فاتصلت ثم أخبرته - الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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