What is the ruling on the custom in our country of gathering for condolences and women wearing black, and is it permissible for a woman to observe a mourning period of three days for her relatives?
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Question:
She asks: What is the ruling if it is the custom of the people of the town that they gather at the deceased's home for condolences? Also, it is our custom for women to wear black during the mourning period. Is it permissible for a woman to observe a mourning period of three days for her relatives, such as her father, uncle, or maternal uncle?
Answer:
As for gathering at a specific place and time, the answer to that was given in the previous question. As for wearing black, it is not prescribed; rather, it is a bid'ah (religious innovation). The wife of the deceased may wear whatever clothes she wishes, except for clothes of adornment, whether they are black, red, or green. There are no specific clothes for condolences, or for mourning, or for the days of calamity. Wearing black is one of the customs of the disbelievers, and those among those who claim to be Muslims who imitate them are not permitted to do so. Mm.
As for a woman observing a mourning period for someone other than her husband, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) granted a dispensation for this up to three days. What Allah willed. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said:As-Sunan al-Kubra lil-Nasa'i 65:67
She asks: What is the ruling if it is the custom of the people of the town that they gather at the deceased's home for condolences? Also, it is our custom for women to wear black during the mourning period. Is it permissible for a woman to observe a mourning period of three days for her relatives, such as her father, uncle, or maternal uncle?
Answer:
As for gathering at a specific place and time, the answer to that was given in the previous question. As for wearing black, it is not prescribed; rather, it is a bid'ah (religious innovation). The wife of the deceased may wear whatever clothes she wishes, except for clothes of adornment, whether they are black, red, or green. There are no specific clothes for condolences, or for mourning, or for the days of calamity. Wearing black is one of the customs of the disbelievers, and those among those who claim to be Muslims who imitate them are not permitted to do so. Mm.
As for a woman observing a mourning period for someone other than her husband, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) granted a dispensation for this up to three days. What Allah willed. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
It is not permissible for a woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day to observe a mourning period for a deceased person for more than three days, except for her husband, for whom it is four months and ten days.
لا يحل لامرأة تؤمن بالله واليوم الآخر أن تحد عَلَى مَيِّتٍ فَوْقَ ثَلاَثٍ إِلاَّ عَلَى زَوْجٍ أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، ما حكم عادة بلادنا في الاجتماع للعزاء ولبس المرأة السواد، وهل لها أن تحد على اقاربها ثلاثة أيام؟ — youtube.com
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