She says that sometimes she scolds and hits her sister's children because of their mischief and the disturbance they cause her. What is the ruling?
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The questioner:
She says: My sister's husband passed away and left her with five children, the oldest of whom is eleven years old. They are living with us and their mother after she refused to remarry. Because they are mischievous and sometimes anger me, I find myself scolding and hitting them at times. Is there any sin on me for that, knowing that I love them deeply? May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
These are orphans, and it is obligatory to treat them kindly and not to mistreat them because they are orphans. The orphan has a right; if he is a relative, such as the children of your sister's children, they are relatives who have the right of kinship and the right of being an orphan. Allah the Exalted has commanded kindness to the orphan and ordered kindness toward him. He said, the Exalted:[Ad-Duhaa 93:9] As for the orphan, do not oppress him. He said, the Exalted: [An-Nisa 4:9]
Mistreating orphans. Mistreating orphans. This carries a great reward [for being kind to them]. And mistreating orphans. This is forbidden. So you must heed this matter.
And not mistreating them. As for discipline, if it is for their benefit and within the limits of what is prescribed, there is nothing wrong with it, because this is for their benefit.
The presenter:
But you must be gentle in that, and avoid idle talk, and ward off
The Shaykh:
harms.
She says: My sister's husband passed away and left her with five children, the oldest of whom is eleven years old. They are living with us and their mother after she refused to remarry. Because they are mischievous and sometimes anger me, I find myself scolding and hitting them at times. Is there any sin on me for that, knowing that I love them deeply? May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
These are orphans, and it is obligatory to treat them kindly and not to mistreat them because they are orphans. The orphan has a right; if he is a relative, such as the children of your sister's children, they are relatives who have the right of kinship and the right of being an orphan. Allah the Exalted has commanded kindness to the orphan and ordered kindness toward him. He said, the Exalted:
the orphan, do not
الْيَتِيمَ فَلَاAnd let those [executors and guardians] fear [injustice] as if they [themselves] had left weak offspring behind and feared for them. So let them fear Allah and speak words of appropriate justice.
وَلْيَخْشَ الَّذِينَ لَوْ تَرَكُوا مِنْ خَلْفِهِمْ ذُرِّيَّةً ضِعَافًا خَافُوا عَلَيْهِمْ فَلْيَتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَلْيَقُولُوا قَوْلًا سَدِيدًاMistreating orphans. Mistreating orphans. This carries a great reward [for being kind to them]. And mistreating orphans. This is forbidden. So you must heed this matter.
And not mistreating them. As for discipline, if it is for their benefit and within the limits of what is prescribed, there is nothing wrong with it, because this is for their benefit.
The presenter:
But you must be gentle in that, and avoid idle talk, and ward off
The Shaykh:
harms.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، تقول أنها أحياناً تنهر وتضرب أطفال أختها بسبب مشاغبتهم وإزعاجهم لها فما الحكم؟ الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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