The ruling on obeying one's father in leaving off the verbal prohibition of evil

The questioner:
May Allah reward you, Honorable Shaykh. This questioner says: My father orders me not to rebuke some people with my tongue because of the harm that results from it. The question is: Is it obligatory to avoid the harm?

The Shaykh:
Hmm?

The questioner:
He says: Because of the harm that results from it.

The Shaykh:
Yes.

The questioner:
The question is: Am I required to obey him or disobey him?

The Shaykh:
There is a distinction here. If the verbal prohibition is done with violence and harshness, that is not permissible; it drives them away and incites them against him. But if it is done as , I do not think they will do anything but either accept it or say, "May Allah reward you with good," and remain silent. If you approach them in the manner prescribed by Allah, which He mentioned in this verse, your father may say, "Do not be violent or harsh in your speech." Yes.