Dealing with a mother who mistreats her son
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Question:
May Allah reward you. He says: I wish to be indifferent to my mother, but she does not respect me, she curses me, and she calls me names that sadden me. How should I deal with her?
Answer:
Yes. You must be dutiful to her and treat her with kindness, even if she mistreats you. I believe or think that she is harsh with you because of your behavior, so improve your behavior toward her, be gentle with her, and be soft with her. She is more patient than you and more merciful toward you, so you must treat her well, seek her forgiveness, and be gentle with her in speech[Al-Isra 17:23-24]. Yes.
May Allah reward you. He says: I wish to be indifferent to my mother, but she does not respect me, she curses me, and she calls me names that sadden me. How should I deal with her?
Answer:
Yes. You must be dutiful to her and treat her with kindness, even if she mistreats you. I believe or think that she is harsh with you because of your behavior, so improve your behavior toward her, be gentle with her, and be soft with her. She is more patient than you and more merciful toward you, so you must treat her well, seek her forgiveness, and be gentle with her in speech
say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. (24) And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small."
فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، محاضرات في العقيدة والدعوة-03-التوبة آداب وأحكام|صالح الفوزان|كبار العلماء — youtube.com (1:05:14)
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