What is the ruling on maintaining ties with relatives who mistreat you?
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Question:
I have a relative who is one of my kin. He frequently stirs up problems between me and my other relatives and tarnishes my reputation among relatives and friends. He has previously complained about me to the judge and to the authorities. How can I maintain ties with him when I fear his harm?
Answer:
Yes, maintain ties with him even though you fear his harm. This is good, perhaps this will become a cause for him to reconsider and repent. Maintaining family ties, even if the person has cut them off, does not nullify his right. Even if he has cut you off, you maintain ties with him and fulfill what is required of you. His responsibility is that cutting you off is his sin against you. As for you, you fulfill what is required of you toward him. As for the one who only maintains ties with those who maintain ties with him and cuts off those who cut him off, he is not one who maintains ties. The Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sahih al-Bukhari 5991
I have a relative who is one of my kin. He frequently stirs up problems between me and my other relatives and tarnishes my reputation among relatives and friends. He has previously complained about me to the judge and to the authorities. How can I maintain ties with him when I fear his harm?
Answer:
Yes, maintain ties with him even though you fear his harm. This is good, perhaps this will become a cause for him to reconsider and repent. Maintaining family ties, even if the person has cut them off, does not nullify his right. Even if he has cut you off, you maintain ties with him and fulfill what is required of you. His responsibility is that cutting you off is his sin against you. As for you, you fulfill what is required of you toward him. As for the one who only maintains ties with those who maintain ties with him and cuts off those who cut him off, he is not one who maintains ties. The Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Al-Wasil is not the one who recompenses the good done to him by his relatives, but Al-Wasil is the one who keeps good relations with those relatives who had severed the bond of kinship with him.
ليس الواصل بالمكافئ، ولكن الواصل الذي إذا قطعت رحمه وصلها.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، ما حكم صلة الأرحام المسيئين؟ #فتاوى الفوزان — youtube.com
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