What is the ruling on a wife hating her husband?
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The questioner : Please. Peace be upon you. Shaykh Muhammad, yes. She says: Shaykh, what is the ruling on hating in the path of Allah if it is regarding the husband, O Shaykh?
The Shaykh : Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and I send prayers and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad, the Seal of the Prophets and the Imam of the Pious, and upon his family and his Companions, and those who follow them with excellence until the Day of Judgment. Do you mean a woman who hates her husband for the sake of Allah?
The questioner : Yes, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : She will not hate her husband for the sake of Allah except because of his negligence in an obligatory duty or his commission of a forbidden act. It is obligatory for her to advise him and warn him of Allah the Mighty and Majestic, unless it is because he abandons prayer entirely, meaning he does not pray. In that case, it is not permissible to remain with him. It is obligatory for her to separate from him. This is because the one who does not pray is a disbeliever. An apostate from the religion of Allah.
If he is a disbeliever who has apostatized from the religion of Allah, then Allah the Exalted said in the Noble Qur'an:[Al-Mumtahanah 60:10]. The scholars (may Allah have mercy on them) agreed that a Muslim woman is not lawful for a disbeliever. And if he disbelieves, he is given a respite until the waiting period expires, meaning he is separated from the woman and given a respite until the waiting period expires. If he returns to Islam, she is his wife. If he remains in his apostasy, the marriage is dissolved from the time of his apostasy. This is the position of the Hanbalis regarding the issue of respite. As for the issue that a Muslim woman is not lawful for a disbeliever, that is a matter of consensus and there is no doubt in it. As for the issue of abandoning prayer, whether it constitutes disbelief or not?
There is disagreement among the scholars, but the reference in case of disagreement is to Allah and His Messenger, to the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him). By referring to the Book and the Sunnah, it becomes clear that the one who abandons prayer is a disbeliever with major shirk (associating partners with Allah) that takes him out of the religion. As mentioned by the precise scholars of knowledge. We have a small treatise on this, but it is small in size and great in meaning. When a person reads it with knowledge and fairness, the matter becomes clear to him.
The Shaykh : Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and I send prayers and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad, the Seal of the Prophets and the Imam of the Pious, and upon his family and his Companions, and those who follow them with excellence until the Day of Judgment. Do you mean a woman who hates her husband for the sake of Allah?
The questioner : Yes, Shaykh.
The Shaykh : She will not hate her husband for the sake of Allah except because of his negligence in an obligatory duty or his commission of a forbidden act. It is obligatory for her to advise him and warn him of Allah the Mighty and Majestic, unless it is because he abandons prayer entirely, meaning he does not pray. In that case, it is not permissible to remain with him. It is obligatory for her to separate from him. This is because the one who does not pray is a disbeliever. An apostate from the religion of Allah.
If he is a disbeliever who has apostatized from the religion of Allah, then Allah the Exalted said in the Noble Qur'an:
then do not return them to the disbelievers; they are not lawful [wives] for them, nor are they lawful [husbands] for them
فَلَا تَرْجِعُوهُنَّ إِلَى الْكُفَّارِ لَا هُنَّ حِلٌّ لَّهُمْ وَلَا هُمْ يَحِلُّونَ لَهُنَّThere is disagreement among the scholars, but the reference in case of disagreement is to Allah and His Messenger, to the Book of Allah and the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him). By referring to the Book and the Sunnah, it becomes clear that the one who abandons prayer is a disbeliever with major shirk (associating partners with Allah) that takes him out of the religion. As mentioned by the precise scholars of knowledge. We have a small treatise on this, but it is small in size and great in meaning. When a person reads it with knowledge and fairness, the matter becomes clear to him.
Source
قناة «فضيلة الشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين»، 2569- ما حكم كره الزوجة لزوجها/سؤال على الهاتف 📞 /ابن عثيمين — youtube.com
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