A woman orders her son to pray, but he is negligent and does not pray. Is she sinful for that, and what must she do?
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The questioner : May Allah reward you with good. We have another call with us now. This questioner is on the line with us. She has a son who is nineteen years old. She often orders him to pray, but he misses many of the times. This boy is slow to respond. Is she sinful for that, and what must she do in such a case?
The Shaykh : She is not sinful for that as long as she has fulfilled what is obligatory upon her, which is waking the man up, guiding him, and advising him. For Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, said to His Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him and his family):[Al-Baqarah 2:272] And He the Exalted said: [Ali 'Imran 3:20]. And He also said: [Al-Qasas 28:56] So if this woman advises the boy, guides him, wakes him up for prayer, and encourages him to pray, then she owes nothing more than that. Yes, if we suppose that he does not pray at all, then here she must contact the authorities to make him do so. Yes.
The questioner : Shaykh, does the father also enter into this in such a case, or in this ruling?
The Shaykh : There was a father. The father is the primary one; he is responsible for his family. And it is obligatory upon him, the father, to do what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) ordered us to do, which is to order his sons to pray at seven and to beat them for it at ten.
The Shaykh : She is not sinful for that as long as she has fulfilled what is obligatory upon her, which is waking the man up, guiding him, and advising him. For Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, said to His Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him and his family):
Not upon you, [O Muhammad], is [responsibility for] their guidance, but Allah guides whom He wills.
لَّيْسَ عَلَيْكَ هُدَاهُمْ وَلَٰكِنَّ اللَّهَ يَهْدِي مَن يَشَاءُthen upon you is only the [duty of] notification. And Allah is Seeing of [His] servants.
فَإِنَّمَا عَلَيْكَ الْبَلَاغُ وَاللَّهُ بَصِيرٌ بِالْعِبَادِIndeed, [O Muhammad], you do not guide whom you like, but Allah guides whom He wills
إِنَّكَ لَا تَهْدِي مَنْ أَحْبَبْتَ وَلَٰكِنَّ اللَّهَ يَهْدِي مَن يَشَاءُThe questioner : Shaykh, does the father also enter into this in such a case, or in this ruling?
The Shaykh : There was a father. The father is the primary one; he is responsible for his family. And it is obligatory upon him, the father, to do what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) ordered us to do, which is to order his sons to pray at seven and to beat them for it at ten.
Source
قناة «فضيلة الشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين»، 2726- امرأة تأمرابنها بالصلاة لكن يتهاون فيها ولا يصلي هل عليها إثم في ذلك وما يجب ان تفعل — youtube.com
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