The ruling on a wife remaining with her sick mother
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Question:
My wife spends most of her time by her mother’s side on the grounds that she is ill, and she is indeed ill. I asked that the sick woman move to my house to bring the mother closer to her daughter, so that my wife can stay in her home with her children, and so that we can all benefit from being gathered in one house, and so that there is no harm or detriment. My wife’s absence from the home causes me and the rest of the family to suffer from confusion and disarray. However, my invitation was not accepted by my aunt, nor by her family, on the grounds of embarrassment and the like. This situation continues, O Shaykh Salih, leading to the following question: Is my wife required to stay with her mother and leave her husband and children, or do I have the right to what I requested? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and his Companions. After that: There is no doubt that the mother has a right over her daughter, the husband has a right over his wife, and the young children have a right over their mother. Regarding the problem you mentioned, the best solution is what you mentioned: that the sick mother moves with her daughter to your home in order to combine the rights and the wisdom. Yes. Combining the service of the mother, caring for her, and being dutiful to her, with obeying the husband, serving him, and raising the children—this is without a doubt?
That it is the only solution. However, if there are circumstances that prevent the sick woman from coming to your house, and if she has other sons or daughters besides your wife, then it is not obligatory for your wife to go to her, as she can rely on the other individuals, and your wife can devote herself to her duty in your home. But if there is no one to serve the sick mother, then there is no solution other than what brings her to the gathering of interests and removes the hardship from everyone. The mother should take these circumstances into consideration. You are to be thanked for presenting this to her, being ready to receive her, and providing comfort for her. She has no other option.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
My wife spends most of her time by her mother’s side on the grounds that she is ill, and she is indeed ill. I asked that the sick woman move to my house to bring the mother closer to her daughter, so that my wife can stay in her home with her children, and so that we can all benefit from being gathered in one house, and so that there is no harm or detriment. My wife’s absence from the home causes me and the rest of the family to suffer from confusion and disarray. However, my invitation was not accepted by my aunt, nor by her family, on the grounds of embarrassment and the like. This situation continues, O Shaykh Salih, leading to the following question: Is my wife required to stay with her mother and leave her husband and children, or do I have the right to what I requested? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and may Allah send prayers and blessings upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and his Companions. After that: There is no doubt that the mother has a right over her daughter, the husband has a right over his wife, and the young children have a right over their mother. Regarding the problem you mentioned, the best solution is what you mentioned: that the sick mother moves with her daughter to your home in order to combine the rights and the wisdom. Yes. Combining the service of the mother, caring for her, and being dutiful to her, with obeying the husband, serving him, and raising the children—this is without a doubt?
That it is the only solution. However, if there are circumstances that prevent the sick woman from coming to your house, and if she has other sons or daughters besides your wife, then it is not obligatory for your wife to go to her, as she can rely on the other individuals, and your wife can devote herself to her duty in your home. But if there is no one to serve the sick mother, then there is no solution other than what brings her to the gathering of interests and removes the hardship from everyone. The mother should take these circumstances into consideration. You are to be thanked for presenting this to her, being ready to receive her, and providing comfort for her. She has no other option.
The presenter:
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، تقضي زوجته أغلب وقتها مع أمها المريضة وقد طلبت أن تنتقل المريضة إلى بيتي لكن لم تقبل دعوتي فهل...؟ — youtube.com
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