If a relative of ours dies, a condolence gathering is held for him for three days. If I do not attend the condolence gathering, they blame me. What should I do?
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The questioner:
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. He says: What takes place in some of our countries here is that when a person dies, a condolence gathering is held for him for three days. He says: If one of my relatives dies and I do not attend the condolence gathering, they blame me.
The Shaykh:
Hello.
The questioner:
They blame me and disapprove of me. He says: So what should I do?
The Shaykh:
Explain to them, explain to them the Sunnah, and explain to them that this is a baseless innovation. If they are satisfied, praise be to Allah. If they are not satisfied, you have an excuse for not attending, because you have explained it to them and they know that you did not delay except because they did not accept it. The error is theirs. Yes.
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. He says: What takes place in some of our countries here is that when a person dies, a condolence gathering is held for him for three days. He says: If one of my relatives dies and I do not attend the condolence gathering, they blame me.
The Shaykh:
Hello.
The questioner:
They blame me and disapprove of me. He says: So what should I do?
The Shaykh:
Explain to them, explain to them the Sunnah, and explain to them that this is a baseless innovation. If they are satisfied, praise be to Allah. If they are not satisfied, you have an excuse for not attending, because you have explained it to them and they know that you did not delay except because they did not accept it. The error is theirs. Yes.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، [949 -3022]إذا مات قريب لنا أقيم له العزاء لمدة ثلاثة أيام، فإذا لم أحضر للعزاء أنكر علي فماذا أصنع؟ — youtube.com
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