Advice to a woman to take the initiative in marriage if a suitable suitor proposes

The questioner:
You have done well, you have done well, you have done well. My cousin proposed to me before him, and he is more upright than he is, but he has a kidney disease; one of his kidneys was removed, and he is constantly ill. My father rejected him, fearing that he would not be able to marry and have children. So, should I accept this opinion? Which of the two is more deserving and better for me in marriage? If another man proposes to me, should I accept him, or wait for that young man who wants to marry me? Guide us, for you are the ones we trust. May Allah reward you with good.

The Shaykh:
We advise you to take the initiative in marriage if a righteous and suitable suitor proposes to you, for what is required of you is to be certain, or it will come upon you.

The presenter:
You must be certain, or it will come upon you.

The Shaykh:
The initiative.

The presenter:
In marriage, as the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "If one comes to you..."

The Shaykh:
...whose religion and trustworthiness you are pleased with, then marry him to her. It is a great matter. And regarding what you mentioned about this man who has a kidney disease and has had a kidney transplanted, if the disease prevents him from fulfilling the duties of marriage, then there is no doubt that this is a defect in him. But if it does not prevent him from fulfilling the rights of marriage, and he is a man of religion and trustworthiness, then you should take the initiative to marry him. Yes.