My father cursed me, and I want to be released from his curse, so what is the guidance for me and my father?
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The questioner:
We would like to conclude this episode, Honorable Shaykh, with a message that touches on the social aspect, particularly regarding the rights of parents. The one who sent it is 'Abd Allah ibn Ibrahim al-Salih. He says: Honorable Shaykh, a misunderstanding occurred between me and my father five years ago, and words were exchanged between us, ending with him cursing me by saying, "I ask Allah not to grant you success in this world or the Hereafter." After that, I went back to my father to ask him to release me from the curse and to seek forgiveness from Allah for it, but he refused. I remember this curse in every moment, at all times, and in every instance. And I, praise be to Allah, am now praying, fasting, and fulfilling what is obligatory upon me toward Allah the Exalted and Supreme. However, whenever I undertake a worldly matter, I fail in it. For example, I proposed marriage and failed, and I advanced in my studies and also failed. So what is your advice to me?
The Shaykh:
There is no doubt that a father's curse carries its weight. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) mentioned that the father is among the three whose supplications are not rejected, due to the greatness of his right, and because he does not curse his son except for a reason, as he is compassionate and merciful toward his son. It is not possible for him to curse him unless the son has done something that causes the father's anger toward his son. In any case, this is a difficult matter. If your father is still alive, you must seek his forgiveness, satisfy him, and give him whatever money he wants until he is pleased with you. If he has passed away, you must repent to Allah the Mighty and Sublime and be kind to your father by giving charity on his behalf, making supplication for him, and seeking forgiveness for him, so that Allah may lighten for you this crime that occurred on your part against your father, which led him to curse you. You must be kind to him through charity, supplication, and performing 'Umrah and Hajj on his behalf, and offering the 'Id sacrifice, so that Allah may lighten for you, for this is part of being dutiful to him. Or if he has debts or rights owed to people, it is obligatory for you to pay them off, so that Allah may lighten for you this curse that has befallen you in your life, as you say. Yes.
The presenter:
And at the end, he asks: What is the advice of the Honorable Shaykh for the father? May Allah reward him with every good.
The Shaykh:
The advice for the father is to forgive his son. Allah the Exalted and Supreme said:[Ash-Shuraa 42:40] So how about forgiving a close relative? How about forgiving a son? This is a greater reward. So the father should forgive his son and pardon him, so that Allah may compensate him with good for what he missed. Yes.
We would like to conclude this episode, Honorable Shaykh, with a message that touches on the social aspect, particularly regarding the rights of parents. The one who sent it is 'Abd Allah ibn Ibrahim al-Salih. He says: Honorable Shaykh, a misunderstanding occurred between me and my father five years ago, and words were exchanged between us, ending with him cursing me by saying, "I ask Allah not to grant you success in this world or the Hereafter." After that, I went back to my father to ask him to release me from the curse and to seek forgiveness from Allah for it, but he refused. I remember this curse in every moment, at all times, and in every instance. And I, praise be to Allah, am now praying, fasting, and fulfilling what is obligatory upon me toward Allah the Exalted and Supreme. However, whenever I undertake a worldly matter, I fail in it. For example, I proposed marriage and failed, and I advanced in my studies and also failed. So what is your advice to me?
The Shaykh:
There is no doubt that a father's curse carries its weight. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) mentioned that the father is among the three whose supplications are not rejected, due to the greatness of his right, and because he does not curse his son except for a reason, as he is compassionate and merciful toward his son. It is not possible for him to curse him unless the son has done something that causes the father's anger toward his son. In any case, this is a difficult matter. If your father is still alive, you must seek his forgiveness, satisfy him, and give him whatever money he wants until he is pleased with you. If he has passed away, you must repent to Allah the Mighty and Sublime and be kind to your father by giving charity on his behalf, making supplication for him, and seeking forgiveness for him, so that Allah may lighten for you this crime that occurred on your part against your father, which led him to curse you. You must be kind to him through charity, supplication, and performing 'Umrah and Hajj on his behalf, and offering the 'Id sacrifice, so that Allah may lighten for you, for this is part of being dutiful to him. Or if he has debts or rights owed to people, it is obligatory for you to pay them off, so that Allah may lighten for you this curse that has befallen you in your life, as you say. Yes.
The presenter:
And at the end, he asks: What is the advice of the Honorable Shaykh for the father? May Allah reward him with every good.
The Shaykh:
The advice for the father is to forgive his son. Allah the Exalted and Supreme said:
but whoever pardons and makes reconciliation - his reward is [due] from Allah
فَمَنْ عَفَا وَأَصْلَحَ فَأَجْرُهُ عَلَى اللَّهِ
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، دعا علي أبي، وأريد التحلل من دعوته علي، فما التوجيه لي ولأبي؟ الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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