What is your guidance for those who are undutiful to their parents?
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Question:
He says: What is your guidance for those who are undutiful to their parents? For I saw today in this mosque an old man scolding his elderly father as if he were a small child.
Answer:
This is not permissible. Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) made the right of the parents after His right (Glorified and Exalted is He)[An-Nisa 4:36] [Al-Isra 17:23] So the right of the parents comes in the second place after the right of Allah (Glorified and Exalted is He). Therefore, it is not permissible for a son or a child to be undutiful to his parents. Undutifulness is a major sin among the grave sins that lead to destruction, and I seek refuge in Allah. It is a great sin among the destructive ones. And Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) says:
[Al-Isra 17:23-24] Remember your state when you were a child, when you had no power over yourself, could not ward off harm from yourself, and were unable to bring about good. Yet they raised you, were patient with your annoyance, and toiled in your upbringing. Remember this and treat them with excellence and gratitude for their kindness. [Al-Isra 17:24]
They are the ones who raised you when you were small and could do nothing. So when one of them grows old or becomes weak, remember your state when you were weak. Remember their attitude toward you when you were weak, so treat them with excellence when they become weak.
He says: What is your guidance for those who are undutiful to their parents? For I saw today in this mosque an old man scolding his elderly father as if he were a small child.
Answer:
This is not permissible. Allah (Exalted and Majestic is He) made the right of the parents after His right (Glorified and Exalted is He)
Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good
وَاعْبُدُوا اللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًاAnd your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment.
وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا(23) And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word. (24) And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small."
وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًاand say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small."
وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًاThey are the ones who raised you when you were small and could do nothing. So when one of them grows old or becomes weak, remember your state when you were weak. Remember their attitude toward you when you were weak, so treat them with excellence when they become weak.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، ما توجيهكم للعاقين لآبائهم؟ للشيخ الفوزان — youtube.com
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