Preoccupied with thoughts of marriage during his studies, and unable to marry
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Question:
The questioner, identified as "Ain Sin Kaf 'Arar," says that he is a young man seeking religious knowledge and studying at a Sharia college. He says his problem is that he thinks about marriage all the time, whether he is in class or reading a book, which prevents him from concentrating on the lessons and acquiring knowledge, especially at this precious stage of life. Is there any guidance and remedy for this problem? He notes that he cannot afford to marry for at least three years due to the costs of marriage, and he asks you to pray for his success and guidance. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
There is no doubt that taking the initiative to marry, especially for a young man who fears for himself from fitnah (trial, discord or temptation), is obligatory if he can afford the costs of marriage. However, if he cannot afford the costs of marriage, he should wait until Allah the Exalted makes it easy for him. Allah the Exalted said:[An-Nur 24:32-33] So, if he is able to marry and fears for himself from hardship, he must marry. But if he is able to marry and does not fear for himself from hardship, it is permissible for him to delay marriage, though marrying is better than delaying it because of the benefits in marriage. As for the one who is unable to marry, he should wait until Allah the Exalted makes it easy for him. Yes.
The questioner, identified as "Ain Sin Kaf 'Arar," says that he is a young man seeking religious knowledge and studying at a Sharia college. He says his problem is that he thinks about marriage all the time, whether he is in class or reading a book, which prevents him from concentrating on the lessons and acquiring knowledge, especially at this precious stage of life. Is there any guidance and remedy for this problem? He notes that he cannot afford to marry for at least three years due to the costs of marriage, and he asks you to pray for his success and guidance. May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
There is no doubt that taking the initiative to marry, especially for a young man who fears for himself from fitnah (trial, discord or temptation), is obligatory if he can afford the costs of marriage. However, if he cannot afford the costs of marriage, he should wait until Allah the Exalted makes it easy for him. Allah the Exalted said:
(32) And marry the unmarried among you and the righteous among your male slaves and female slaves. If they should be poor, Allah will enrich them from His bounty, and Allah is all-Encompassing and Knowing. (33) But let them who find not [the means for] marriage abstain [from sexual relations] until Allah enriches them from His bounty. And those who seek a contract [for eventual emancipation] from among whom your right hands possess - then make a contract with them if you know there is within them goodness and give them from the wealth of Allah which He has given you. And do not compel your slave girls to prostitution, if they desire chastity, to seek [thereby] the temporary interests of worldly life. And if someone should compel them, then indeed, Allah is [to them], after their compulsion, Forgiving and Merciful.
وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ وَلْيَسْتَعْفِفِ الَّذِينَ لَا يَجِدُونَ نِكَاحًا حَتَّىٰ يُغْنِيَهُمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، يشغله التفكير بالزواج أثناء الدراسة، ولا يستطيع الزواج – الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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