Does the one in i'tikaf (spiritual retreat in the mosque) go out to offer condolences for the death of a relative?

The questioner : This questioner says: It is known that the period for condolences is three days. I heard about the death of my nephew, and I am currently in i'tikaf. He passed away two days ago. So, should I go out to offer condolences and then return?

The Shaykh : His statement that "it is known." Do you see? That the time for condolences is three days. I hope the brother questioner will clarify this for me.

The questioner : On what basis is this knowledge built?

The Shaykh : That the period for condolences is three days. Is there anyone among you present here who has knowledge that the period for condolences is three days? Let us discuss it with him. This is a custom. Be patient. Is it forbidden? Yes. It is a custom.
Because I do not know of any text in this issue that specifies it. And the cause of condolences is the calamity. So, as long as the effects of the calamity remain on the bereaved, then condolences are prescribed. People differ; some are not affected by a calamity at all. And there is a difference in the impact of a calamity. Yes, yes, yes. Yes. One man has a cousin who has millions of dirhams, and he is poor. And his cousin was with him in this worldly life in long and extensive problems. He was eager. So his cousin, the one with the millions, died. Is he grieved by his loss? That this cousin was also wasteful with himself. But he did not reach the limit, the limit. Look. And he hates him for the sake of Allah. A harmful cousin. And negligent in the rights of Allah. And the owner of millions. Yes. And this one is poor. Good. So the one with the millions died. Millions. Is he grieved or not?

The questioner : And not at all? Oh, welcome to the joy.

The Shaykh : He may be grieved with joy. Welcome. Is such a person offered condolences? And this is not known. If I did not like to take a risk, I would say: May he be pleased with the death. Yes. In any case. Come.
People differ in being affected by a calamity. So we offer condolences to the bereaved as long as he is affected by his calamity. And the purpose of condolences is to strengthen, to strengthen this bereaved person with patience and endurance. And the purpose of condolences is not wailing, lamenting, and softening hearts. Say it. No, no, the purpose is strengthening. And so you find this word. This. The letter 'ayn and zay indicate the return. And the form of condolence. Is it a specific form that a person does not exceed? If Allah wills. Or a suitable form. Good. Among people. This. Or most of them. A specific form for condolences. When meeting. May Allah magnify your reward and improve your state. The one saying it may not know what the meaning is, but he does not know what the meaning is. Yes. This is. And the best with which a person is offered condolences. Complete. It is with which the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) offered condolences to one of his daughters. O daughters. And she sent a messenger to him. First. She asked the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) to warn. Oh. So the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said to this messenger. He says: Tell her. Let her be steadfast. Good? And let her count it as a reward. Great. Two great words. For Allah is what He took. One. And for Him is what He left. Put it down. And everything is with Him. Indeed. With a specified term. Allah is the Greatest. How great is the speech of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him). Thank you. And how strong is its impact on the heart. Tired. Let her be patient.

The questioner : Where did this come from?

The Shaykh : And let her count it as a reward. These. These. These two sentences. Two sentences indicating the action. And it is the obligation of patience and counting it as a reward. For Allah is what He informed us. One. And for Him is what He left. This sentence reassures the person that everything is the property of Allah. The son or the daughter who has the daughter of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him). Whose is it? For Allah, for Allah. If He takes her, she is His, she is His. And if He keeps her, she is. I. For Allah, what I loved. And everything is with Him. With a specified term. That this is called faith in the divine decree. Everything is with a specified term. Yes. It cannot be broken. Never, never. If a man. Was treating a tight rope tied on. On a package from the circumstances. In treating the rope. The rope. For her, for her. And the rope released. Welcome. The custom is when a man tightens the rope and it releases. Release. Ha ha, nine months instead. Term. He raised his hand until it hit his eye. If this man said. The number. If not. I try. Thank this rope from my eggs. And what do you say? Say: No, it is not wrong. He says: No, I did not understand. It is never possible. Never. And for this, it is obligatory for a person to be content with the divine decree of Allah. In the name of Allah.
So if we want to offer condolences to a bereaved person, the best with which we offer condolences is what the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) offered to his daughter. Here. But with that. If we see that this bereaved person is not affected by such a statement. We answer with words that may be suitable or not? He says to me: My brother, this is the command of Allah. This is a state of mine. This connection was non-existent at first. First. Then it existed, then it ceased, and it will cease as it ceased, and the like of that. We started. Until this calamity passes away from him. As for us coming with stirring phrases. Great. This is not permissible. Normal. It is mentioned that. That.
Ibn 'Aqil (may Allah have mercy on him). In the name of Allah. A son of his died, who was his eldest son. And the name of the son was 'Aqil. So they took him to the cemetery. Once. And his father (may Allah have mercy on him) was affected by his death because the son grew up with a weak constitution. Knowledge. So when the people saw this thing, the scholar, the scholar was affected, they were also affected. So a man shouted, saying. Saying. A man shouted, saying. Saying. O noble one. He has a father, an old man. So take one of us in his place. I. We are our Lord, He is good. When the common people heard it, they burst into crying. Stumbled. So he said to him: What is it, Abu 'Aqil (may Allah have mercy on him)? In the name of Allah. O this one. The Qur'an was only revealed to calm the hearts, not to stir the hearts. And this is correct. Correct. The Qur'an was revealed to calm the sorrows, not to stir them. And he forbade that. The Qur'an was revealed to calm the sorrows, because when a person reads the Qur'an while in a calamity, he forgets the calamity. If they read with reflection. Oh. And pondering, the calamity descends. Yes. It was not revealed to stir the sorrows. As we hear about some people that when the deceased dies. They gather in his house. Yes. And they start wailing. And crying and lamenting, lamenting. Is this considered condolences or is it stirring the calamities? Yes. Yes. This is stirring the calamities. And for this, the scholars said. From. That it is forbidden to lament and wail. And the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said. The wailer, if she does not repent. Will be raised on the Day of Resurrection. And on her. A shirt of pitch and a coat of thorns. If Allah wills. We ask Allah for safety. So upon the Muslims. Not to look at the conditions of his era at all. Yes. And what some people do. In these matters. But to look at our era. To the custom of the righteous. Abu Salih. From the Companions. And those who followed them in goodness. Yes. And perhaps we will limit ourselves to this. Oh. What is done is done.

The questioner : He says: Should I go out for condolences while I am in seclusion?

The Shaykh : There is no hardship. That is, second. He says: Do I go out for condolences or not? Yes. The second question. And as for whether he goes out for condolences and his i'tikaf, he does not go out. I do not go out in haste and in i'tikaf except if he wishes. To invalidate his i'tikaf, let him do so, because i'tikaf. If it is here and not obligatory. The obligatory. Is it for a person to invalidate it? So if he sees. He sees. That not going out for condolences. Leads to severing family ties, and that condolences are necessary. Yes. And that condolences are necessary. Let him go out, and not leave the obligatory thing for the sake of remaining in the permissible thing.