The manner of dealing with those who harbor ill intent, such as brothers' wives or others
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The questioner : The questioner says: Honorable Shaykh, a sister is with us on the line regarding the manner of dealing with others. If the brothers' wives lie to this woman, or slander her, or harbor some ill intent toward her, or some kind of harm, the mother says she gets upset and her chest tightens. So what do you advise this woman to do?
The Shaykh : Direct her to the saying of Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He:[Fussilat 41:34]. [Fussilat 41:34]. So Allah the Exalted commanded that a person should repel evil with that which is better. He did not say with good, but rather with that which is better. That he should use the best manners.
The questioner : She tried.
The Shaykh : And let him strive for humility. If he does that in obedience to the command of Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He, Allah will turn the hatred of this man who wronged him, or this woman who wronged her, into love and friendship, as if he were a close relative.
The questioner : The questioner says: Shaykh, she says that she tried as much as she could. If this woman has no religion, Honorable Shaykh, what is my position toward her?
The Shaykh : I say: continue in the attempt.
The questioner : Praise be to Allah.
The Shaykh : And she is in a good state and earning reward.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh : Direct her to the saying of Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He:
And not equal are the good deed and the bad
وَلَا تَسْتَوِي الْحَسَنَةُ وَلَا السَّيِّئَةُRepel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend.
ادْفَعْ بِالَّتِي هِيَ أَحْسَنُ فَإِذَا الَّذِي بَيْنَكَ وَبَيْنَهُ عَدَاوَةٌ كَأَنَّهُ وَلِيٌّ حَمِيمٌThe questioner : She tried.
The Shaykh : And let him strive for humility. If he does that in obedience to the command of Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He, Allah will turn the hatred of this man who wronged him, or this woman who wronged her, into love and friendship, as if he were a close relative.
The questioner : The questioner says: Shaykh, she says that she tried as much as she could. If this woman has no religion, Honorable Shaykh, what is my position toward her?
The Shaykh : I say: continue in the attempt.
The questioner : Praise be to Allah.
The Shaykh : And she is in a good state and earning reward.
The questioner : May Allah reward you with good.
Source
قناة «فضيلة الشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين»، 1785- طريقة المعاملة مع الذين يضمرون الشر من زوجات الأخ او غيرهم /سؤال على الهاتف 📞 /ابن عثيمين — youtube.com
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