A man who lived with his wife and children for decades, then changed and his character changed, so she seeks advice in this situation
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The questioner:
Our sister has a long message and an even longer case. The case is that she lived with her husband for fifty-five years, and after this long period the man changed; he began to curse her and curse her children and drive them out of the house. He even has a son who is thirteen years old and studying, and he prevented him from studying and began to attribute words and actions to him that he did not do. At that point, life became narrow for her, and she began to complain to Shaykh Salih and to ask your eminence for guidance. May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
This is a problem, and it appears from what the questioner mentioned that this man has been afflicted in his mind and intellect, either by an illness or by a substance that affected him. In any case, all she has to do is be patient.
The presenter:
Yes, we are reviewing it.
The Shaykh:
And she should seek reward from Allah and handle matters in the best way. Perhaps this affliction that has befallen this husband will go away, if Allah wills, as long as he was upright with her at the beginning of his married life and for this long period. So what is mentioned is considered an affliction that is expected to go away. She should be patient and seek reward from Allah. If the man is taking something that has affected him, she should advise him and warn him against it, so that perhaps Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, will guide him through her hands, and she will have the reward for this. Yes.
The questioner:
We seek help from Allah. What about worship, Shaykh Salih? You mentioned that the man changed even in matters of worship, in prayer and in fasting.
The Shaykh:
She should also advise him.
The presenter:
We seek help from Allah.
The Shaykh:
And she should command him to pray and command him to fast, so that perhaps Allah will guide him. If it is due to a defect in his intellect, there is no doubt that one who is afflicted with a defect in his intellect is exempted from the pen, if it has reached the point of loss of awareness. If it has reached the point of loss of awareness, then the pen is lifted from him. But if his awareness is with him, if his understanding is with him, then the acts of worship are not dropped from him, neither fasting nor prayer, nor... He must be commanded to do them, and the advice must be repeated for him until Allah, Mighty and Majestic, guides him.
The questioner:
She says that when he sees her performing worship, prayer or fasting, he says, "You are lying in your worship," and at that point he utters such words.
The Shaykh:
That does not affect her. She performs her worship, and his words about it do not affect her. Perhaps his words are coming from a lack of awareness.
The presenter:
We seek help from Allah, we seek help from Allah.
Our sister has a long message and an even longer case. The case is that she lived with her husband for fifty-five years, and after this long period the man changed; he began to curse her and curse her children and drive them out of the house. He even has a son who is thirteen years old and studying, and he prevented him from studying and began to attribute words and actions to him that he did not do. At that point, life became narrow for her, and she began to complain to Shaykh Salih and to ask your eminence for guidance. May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
This is a problem, and it appears from what the questioner mentioned that this man has been afflicted in his mind and intellect, either by an illness or by a substance that affected him. In any case, all she has to do is be patient.
The presenter:
Yes, we are reviewing it.
The Shaykh:
And she should seek reward from Allah and handle matters in the best way. Perhaps this affliction that has befallen this husband will go away, if Allah wills, as long as he was upright with her at the beginning of his married life and for this long period. So what is mentioned is considered an affliction that is expected to go away. She should be patient and seek reward from Allah. If the man is taking something that has affected him, she should advise him and warn him against it, so that perhaps Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, will guide him through her hands, and she will have the reward for this. Yes.
The questioner:
We seek help from Allah. What about worship, Shaykh Salih? You mentioned that the man changed even in matters of worship, in prayer and in fasting.
The Shaykh:
She should also advise him.
The presenter:
We seek help from Allah.
The Shaykh:
And she should command him to pray and command him to fast, so that perhaps Allah will guide him. If it is due to a defect in his intellect, there is no doubt that one who is afflicted with a defect in his intellect is exempted from the pen, if it has reached the point of loss of awareness. If it has reached the point of loss of awareness, then the pen is lifted from him. But if his awareness is with him, if his understanding is with him, then the acts of worship are not dropped from him, neither fasting nor prayer, nor... He must be commanded to do them, and the advice must be repeated for him until Allah, Mighty and Majestic, guides him.
The questioner:
She says that when he sees her performing worship, prayer or fasting, he says, "You are lying in your worship," and at that point he utters such words.
The Shaykh:
That does not affect her. She performs her worship, and his words about it do not affect her. Perhaps his words are coming from a lack of awareness.
The presenter:
We seek help from Allah, we seek help from Allah.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، رجل عاش مع زوجته وأولاده عقودا من الزمن ثم تغير وتغيرت أخلاقه، فترجو النصيحة والحال هذه. — youtube.com
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