If a suitable suitor proposes to a woman and she refuses, and she wants to propose to a non-suitable suitor, is she prevented from marrying?
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The questioner : Some people go, for example, to the guardian, and he is a suitable match, and he says, for example, “The choice is theirs” or “I defer to them” if they choose, so the choice is hers. I mean, what is it?
The Shaykh : There is no problem with this. May Allah reward him with good. The one who, when proposed to, says, “By Allah, the choice is hers. I will ask her and inform you.” This is good. May Allah reward him with good.
The questioner : If she does not agree to a suitable match, if she does not want the suitable match, I mean.
The Shaykh : No, if she has a suitable match and does not marry, I mean, if a suitable and a non-suitable suitor propose to her, and she says, “I do not want the suitable one, but I want the non-suitable one,” we say, “No, we will not marry you to anyone other than a suitable match.” Even if she dies, there is no blame on her guardian.
The Shaykh : There is no problem with this. May Allah reward him with good. The one who, when proposed to, says, “By Allah, the choice is hers. I will ask her and inform you.” This is good. May Allah reward him with good.
The questioner : If she does not agree to a suitable match, if she does not want the suitable match, I mean.
The Shaykh : No, if she has a suitable match and does not marry, I mean, if a suitable and a non-suitable suitor propose to her, and she says, “I do not want the suitable one, but I want the non-suitable one,” we say, “No, we will not marry you to anyone other than a suitable match.” Even if she dies, there is no blame on her guardian.
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قناة «فضيلة الشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين»، 1959 - 4600 إذا خطب المرأة الكفؤ ورفضت وأرادت خطبة غير الكفؤ هل تمنع من الزواج؟ ابن عثيمين — youtube.com
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