The ruling on attending weddings and feasts that contain what is wrong
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Question : It is as if he is asking: What is the ruling on my attending the wedding of one of my relatives, where there was a lapse in this wedding regarding the women, including the groom attending with the bride’s family among the women, and sitting on a platform in front of the women, where some people objected to him when he took his family out, and said that this is a sin for some of them.
Answer : It is obligatory for a person, if he is invited to a feast that contains what is wrong, that if he is able to change this wrong, he should attend in response to the invitation and to change the wrong. If he is not able to remove the wrong, it is not permissible for him to attend, even if the host is one of his relatives, due to the saying of Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He:[An-Nisa 4:140].
As for the statement of some people that it causes the severing of family ties, we say that if this causes the severing of family ties, the sin is on the one who commits the forbidden act, because he is the one who caused the invitee to miss the invitation, so the sin is on him. Then, the general rule is that the one who delays attending an invitation for the sake of Allah, the Exalted, out of fear of falling into what is forbidden, the general rule is that Allah, the Exalted, turns hearts toward him, and the severing of ties does not occur.
Answer : It is obligatory for a person, if he is invited to a feast that contains what is wrong, that if he is able to change this wrong, he should attend in response to the invitation and to change the wrong. If he is not able to remove the wrong, it is not permissible for him to attend, even if the host is one of his relatives, due to the saying of Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He:
And it has already come down to you in the Book that when you hear the verses of Allah [recited], they are denied [by them] and ridiculed; so do not sit with them until they enter into another conversation. Indeed, you would then be like them.
وَقَدْ نَزَّلَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِي الْكِتَابِ أَنْ إِذَا سَمِعْتُمْ آيَاتِ اللَّهِ يُكْفَرُ بِهَا وَيُسْتَهْزَأُ بِهَا فَلَا تَقْعُدُوا مَعَهُمْ حَتَّىٰ يَخُوضُوا فِي حَدِيثٍ غَيْرِهِ إِنَّكُمْ إِذًا مِّثْلُهُمْAs for the statement of some people that it causes the severing of family ties, we say that if this causes the severing of family ties, the sin is on the one who commits the forbidden act, because he is the one who caused the invitee to miss the invitation, so the sin is on him. Then, the general rule is that the one who delays attending an invitation for the sake of Allah, the Exalted, out of fear of falling into what is forbidden, the general rule is that Allah, the Exalted, turns hearts toward him, and the severing of ties does not occur.
Source
قناة «فضيلة الشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين»، [112] حكم حضور الأعراس والولائم التي فيها منكرات - فوائد الخطب والمحاضرات - ابن عثيمين — youtube.com
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