Is it permissible for a wife to prioritize obedience to her parents over obedience to her husband?
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Question : The questioner asks the Shaykh: Is it permissible for a wife to prioritize obedience to her parents over obedience to her husband?
Answer : It is not permissible for a wife to prioritize obedience to her parents over obedience to her husband, for obedience to the husband is more obligatory than obedience to the parents. However, she can fulfill both: she obeys her husband in what is obligatory for him, and she is dutiful to her parents in what is obligatory for them. But if her husband orders her to do something and her mother forbids it, or her mother or father forbids her from doing it, then obedience to the husband is preferable, as long as it is not disobedience to Allah. If it is disobedience to Allah, then there is no obedience to him. For example, if the husband says to his wife, “Uncover your face for my brother,” as some families do, where the husband and wife eat together with the husband’s brother, this is forbidden. It is not permissible for her to uncover her face for her husband’s brother, nor is it permissible for her to uncover her face for her sister’s husband. If her husband orders her to do this, then there is no listening to him and no obedience in this matter. Yes.
Answer : It is not permissible for a wife to prioritize obedience to her parents over obedience to her husband, for obedience to the husband is more obligatory than obedience to the parents. However, she can fulfill both: she obeys her husband in what is obligatory for him, and she is dutiful to her parents in what is obligatory for them. But if her husband orders her to do something and her mother forbids it, or her mother or father forbids her from doing it, then obedience to the husband is preferable, as long as it is not disobedience to Allah. If it is disobedience to Allah, then there is no obedience to him. For example, if the husband says to his wife, “Uncover your face for my brother,” as some families do, where the husband and wife eat together with the husband’s brother, this is forbidden. It is not permissible for her to uncover her face for her husband’s brother, nor is it permissible for her to uncover her face for her sister’s husband. If her husband orders her to do this, then there is no listening to him and no obedience in this matter. Yes.
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قناة «فضيلة الشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين»، 56 - 81 هل يجوز للزوجة أن تقدم طاعة والديها على طاعة زوجها؟ أهمية طلب العلم - ابن عثيمين — youtube.com
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