A dispute arose between a father and his son over some dirhams, but the son regretted what he had done. What is your guidance, and did he wrong his father?
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The questioner:
I and my father had a dispute over money, the amount being ten thousand Sudanese pounds. We exchanged a lot of words in it, and I warned him about this speech, but I regretted it and was affected. I ask for your guidance and advice: what should I do, and did I wrong my father? May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
Yes. He says: A dispute arose between us over money.
The questioner:
The amount was ten thousand Sudanese pounds. I spoke to my father with a lot of words in it, and I warned him about this speech, but I regretted it and was affected. Guide me: what should I do? And did I anger my father? May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
Yes, the son is required to be polite with his father in his speech and not to dispute with him, especially if the matter concerns worldly affairs. What is obligatory for the son is to be polite with his father, to speak to him kindly, and not to dispute with him over money, based on the saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) which harms the son. The scholars have mentioned that the father has the right to take from his son's money what does not harm him and what he does not need. So the father should not exaggerate in pressuring his son to take his money to the point where the son is harmed or the son needs it. If this happens, it is considered injustice and oppression. As for what exceeds the son's need, the father has the right to take it from him, and the son should be lenient with his father, because this is part of dutifulness and excellence. Also, this is a cause for Allah the Exalted to be pleased with the son and to compensate him with good for what his father took from him. It may be a cause for sustenance and abundance of sustenance. If the son pleases his father and is generous with him in money, and does not embarrass or anger him, then that will be a cause from Allah the Exalted for the son's sustenance to be extended, [At-Talaq 65:2-3]. Yes. May Allah reward you with good, and may Allah reward you.
I and my father had a dispute over money, the amount being ten thousand Sudanese pounds. We exchanged a lot of words in it, and I warned him about this speech, but I regretted it and was affected. I ask for your guidance and advice: what should I do, and did I wrong my father? May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
Yes. He says: A dispute arose between us over money.
The questioner:
The amount was ten thousand Sudanese pounds. I spoke to my father with a lot of words in it, and I warned him about this speech, but I regretted it and was affected. Guide me: what should I do? And did I anger my father? May Allah reward you with good.
The Shaykh:
Yes, the son is required to be polite with his father in his speech and not to dispute with him, especially if the matter concerns worldly affairs. What is obligatory for the son is to be polite with his father, to speak to him kindly, and not to dispute with him over money, based on the saying of the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him)
You and your wealth belong to your father, as long as that
أنت ومالك لأبيك، ما لم يكن ذلكAnd whoever fears Allah - He will make for him a way out (3) And will provide for him from where he does not expect.
وَمَن يَتَّقِ اللَّهَ يَجْعَل لَّهُ مَخْرَجًا وَيَرْزُقْهُ مِنْ حَيْثُ لَا يَحْتَسِبُ
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قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، حصل بين اب وابنه منازعة على دراهم ولكن الأبن ندم على ما صدر منه فما توجيهكم وهل أساء لوالده؟ الفوزان — youtube.com
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