A man advises his uncle because he raises his sons poorly, but the uncle responds by turning away and refusing to accept it from him

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Question:
May Allah reward you and make your knowledge beneficial. The brother Musa 'Abd al-'Aziz says in his second question that he has an uncle whose upbringing of his children is not sound. He says: When I advise him to improve their upbringing, he scolds me and says, "This is not your business," and that Allah is Forgiving and Merciful. He also says that my advice to him is a fitnah (trial, discord or temptation). I hope you will inform me: is advising him a fitnah? I also ask that you advise the Muslims through your program to accept advice. May Allah reward you.

Answer:
The Shaykh: Giving advice is obligatory. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said:

The religion is advice, the religion is advice, the religion is advice, three times. They said: For whom, O Messenger of Allah? He said: For Allah, His Book, His Messenger, the leaders of the Muslims, and their common people.

الدين النصيحة، الدين النصيحة، الدِّينُ النَّصِيحَةُ ثَلاثَ مَرَّاتٍ قَالُوا لِمَنْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ لِلَّهِ وَلِكِتَابِهِ وَلِرَسُولِهِ وَلأَئِمَّةِ الْمُسْلِمِينَ وعامتهم،

Sahih Ibn Hibban 23:103

Giving advice is obligatory, especially to a close relative. It is the right of a close relative over his relative that he advise him when he sees him deviating. And Allah, Glorified and Exalted is He, said to His Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him):

And warn, [O Muhammad], your closest kindred.

وَأَنذِرْ عَشِيرَتَكَ الْأَقْرَبِينَ

[Ash-Shu'ara 26:214]

So it is obligatory for you to continue advising your relative, even if he responds to you with the harsh words you mentioned. You should be patient with that and continue advising him to fulfill your duty, and perhaps Allah, Blessed and Exalted is He, will guide him. It is obligatory for the Muslim to accept advice and not follow his desires. Indeed, it is obligatory for the Muslim, when something of the command of Allah and His Messenger reaches him, to act upon it. And there is no obedience for a believing man or a believing woman when Allah and His Messenger have decided a matter:

that they should [thereafter] have any choice about their affair. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has certainly strayed into clear error.

أَن يَكُونَ لَهُمُ الْخِيَرَةُ مِنْ أَمْرِهِمْ وَمَن يَعْصِ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ فَقَدْ ضَلَّ ضَلَالًا مُّبِينًا

[Al-Ahzab 33:36]

And He, Glorified and Exalted is He, says:

And whatever the Messenger has given you - take; and what he has forbidden you - refrain from

وَمَا آتَاكُمُ الرَّسُولُ فَخُذُوهُ وَمَا نَهَاكُمْ عَنْهُ فَانتَهُوا

[Al-Hashr 59:7]

And the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "When I forbid you from something, avoid it, and when I command you with something:

then do of it as much as you can

فاتوا منه ما استطعتم

Sahih al-Bukhari 7288

So it is not permissible for a Muslim, when the Book of Allah or the Sunnah of His Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) reaches him, to contradict that and remain with his desires and his wishes, and to scorn those who advise him. This is not among the characteristics of the Muslims. Rather, it was a saying:

⁽⁵¹⁾ The only statement of the [true] believers when they are called to Allah and His Messenger to judge between them is that they say, "We hear and we obey." And those are the successful. ⁽⁵²⁾ And whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger and fears Allah and is conscious of Him - it is those who are the attainers.

الْمُؤْمِنِينَ إِذَا دُعُوا إِلَى اللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ لِيَحْكُمَ بَيْنَهُمْ أَن يَقُولُوا سَمِعْنَا وَأَطَعْنَا وَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْمُفْلِحُونَ وَمَن يُطِعِ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَيَخْشَ اللَّهَ وَيَتَّقْهِ فَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْفَائِزُونَ

[An-Nur 24:51-52]

Yes.

Source قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 5440- رجل يُناصح عمه لأنه يسيء تربية أبنائه فيقابله بالإعراض وعدم القبول منه - الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com

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