The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “A child and what he owns belong to his father.” Is this hadith a proof for the father to take his daughters' money by force, even though the father is not in need?
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Question:
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “A child and what he owns belong to his father,” or as it was reported from him (peace and blessings be upon him). Most fathers have taken this hadith as their motto, using it as a signal to take their children's money, especially their daughters', by force and falsely, even when the father is in a very comfortable financial state. Perhaps he does not even spend on this daughter; rather, she spends on herself from her salary, of which the father takes most of it. Does this hadith permit the father to do that? And does this hadith include the daughter as well? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
Yes, it is authentically reported from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) that he said:Sunan Ibn Majah 2290Sahih (Darussalam) He said (peace and blessings be upon him): what does not harm the child and what the child does not need. However, if the situation reaches the point of harming the child, then this is not permissible, due to his saying (peace and blessings be upon him): Sunan Ibn Majah 2340Da'if (Darussalam) For this reason, the scholars said that the father may take from his child's wealth what does not harm him and what he does not need, meaning what does not harm the child and what the child does not need. This includes males and females, that is, sons and sons, that is, sons and daughters,
May Allah reward you with good, and may He do you good. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “A child and what he owns belong to his father,” or as it was reported from him (peace and blessings be upon him). Most fathers have taken this hadith as their motto, using it as a signal to take their children's money, especially their daughters', by force and falsely, even when the father is in a very comfortable financial state. Perhaps he does not even spend on this daughter; rather, she spends on herself from her salary, of which the father takes most of it. Does this hadith permit the father to do that? And does this hadith include the daughter as well? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
Yes, it is authentically reported from the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) that he said:
The best of your provision is what you earn, and your children are part of what you earn.
إن أطيب ما أكلتم من كسبكم، وإن أولادكم من كسبكم.You and your wealth belong to your father, so the father may take from the wealth
للولد أنت ومالك لأبيك، فللوالد أن يأخذ من مالIt was narrated from 'Ubadah bin Samit that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) ruled: “There should be neither harming nor reciprocating harm.”
لا ضرر ولا ضرار،
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، قال ﷺ ( الولد وما يملك لأبيه) هل هذا الحديث حجة للوالد بأخذ مال البنات كرها مع أن الوالد غير محتاج؟ — youtube.com
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