The Ruling on a Prospective Husband Being Alone with the Prospective Bride
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Question:
The first message in this episode is one that reached the program from Beni Suweis, the Arab Republic of Egypt, sent by one of the brother listeners from there. The sender, Ahmad Al-Ak Ahmad, has a collection of questions. In one of them, he says: Is it forbidden for a prospective husband to be alone with the prospective bride, even if it is for the sake of advising in religion and guiding them to certain matters concerning both parties? If that is the case, how should the matter be handled? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
Especially since both parties desire to advise one another. May Allah grant you success and write for you reward and drink. In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and I ask Allah to send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions. As for what follows, the mere proposal to a woman does not permit him to be alone with her, because she remains a stranger to him. However, the Wise Lawgiver granted him a dispensation to look at her in the presence of one of her mahram (relatives one may not marry), without being alone with her. He granted him a dispensation to look at what would incline him to marry her, or what would incline him to leave her, such as looking at her face, for example, or her hands. But this is to be done without being alone with her, because she remains a stranger to him. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade being alone with women and entering upon women in the absence of a mahram who prevents being alone with the woman.
He said (peace and blessings be upon him) or as he said death. A close relative of the husband is more dangerous. He is closer to entering upon his brother’s wife. He is closer to being able to remove the barrier that prevents being alone with her. This includes the envious person, a fortiori, because he is a stranger to her. If he wants to advise her or understand her, let that be in the presence of her mahram.
The first message in this episode is one that reached the program from Beni Suweis, the Arab Republic of Egypt, sent by one of the brother listeners from there. The sender, Ahmad Al-Ak Ahmad, has a collection of questions. In one of them, he says: Is it forbidden for a prospective husband to be alone with the prospective bride, even if it is for the sake of advising in religion and guiding them to certain matters concerning both parties? If that is the case, how should the matter be handled? May Allah reward you with good.
Answer:
Especially since both parties desire to advise one another. May Allah grant you success and write for you reward and drink. In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and I ask Allah to send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and all his Companions. As for what follows, the mere proposal to a woman does not permit him to be alone with her, because she remains a stranger to him. However, the Wise Lawgiver granted him a dispensation to look at her in the presence of one of her mahram (relatives one may not marry), without being alone with her. He granted him a dispensation to look at what would incline him to marry her, or what would incline him to leave her, such as looking at her face, for example, or her hands. But this is to be done without being alone with her, because she remains a stranger to him. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade being alone with women and entering upon women in the absence of a mahram who prevents being alone with the woman.
He said (peace and blessings be upon him)
No man is to be alone with a woman except that the third of them is Satan
ما خل رجل بامرأة إلا وثالثهما الشيطان(peace and blessings be upon him) said: Beware of entering upon women. They said: O Messenger of Allah, what about the mahram? He said: The mahram
صلى الله عليه وسلم قال إياكم والدخول على النساء. قالوا يا رسول الله رأيت الحمل. قال الحمل
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، نور على الدرب 094 من المجموعة الأولى للشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com (1:03)
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