What is the ruling on the hand drum for men?

The questioner:
I ask Allah to do you good, Honorable Shaykh. This questioner says: What is the ruling on the hand drum for men, since I heard that it is permissible based on the evidence of the Ansar’s action when the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) arrived in al-Madinah, that they were beating the hand drum?

The Shaykh:
The hand drum is only for women on the occasion of marriage. This is what has been reported: that women beat it on the occasion of marriage, in order to announce the marriage. He (peace and blessings be upon him) said: with the hand drum. As for other than the occasion of marriage in which the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) granted a dispensation, it becomes a form of amusement, a form of instruments of amusement, and it is not permissible for men or women except on the occasion of marriage for women specifically.

The presenter:
May Allah reward you

The questioner:
Honorable Shaykh, and this questioner.

The Shaykh:
I know whether the statement mentioned by the questioner that the Companions beat the hand drums when the Messenger arrived in al-Madinah? I do not know of any basis for this. When the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) arrived in al-Madinah as an emigrant, the Ansar and the Muslims met him, they rejoiced in him, and they celebrated him (peace and blessings be upon him). Each one of the Ansar would take hold of the rein of the Prophet’s (peace and blessings be upon him) camel and ask him to stay with him, saying, “Let it be, for it is under command.” So he (peace and blessings be upon him) proceeded until he reached the location of his mosque and his rooms, and the camel knelt in this place at the door of Abu Ayyub al-Ansari. So Abu Ayyub brought in the Prophet’s (peace and blessings be upon him) camp and hosted him with him. And I have not come across that they beat the hand drums upon his arrival. Rather, this is mentioned in the verses: “The full moon has risen upon us from the bends of farewell, and gratitude is obligatory upon us for whatever Allah calls upon.” This is not regarding his arrival for the migration, because the bends of farewell are not on the path of the Messenger coming from Makkah, but rather they are on the path of the one coming from ash-Sham, because the bend of farewell is known to this day on the road to Tabuk, the road to ash-Sham. So perhaps they did this if it is established, as mentioned by the author of al-Rawd al-Anf and Ibn al-Qayyim, that they did this upon their return from the Battle of Tabuk, but it is not mentioned that they beat the hand drums.