What are my obligations to my family and siblings, and their obligations to me?
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The questioner:
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success, this is a question the questioner repeated and requested to be presented. He says: What are my obligations to my family and siblings, and their obligations to me? Knowing that some of them were the cause of my repentance, I hope you will guide me, as many problems have occurred between me and them.
The Shaykh:
The obligatory duty is to maintain ties with your relatives; maintaining kinship ties is obligatory and a fard (obligatory) upon you. You must maintain kinship ties even if they cut you off and treat you badly; you should be lenient and forgive them. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:Sahih al-Bukhari 5991.
Their right upon you is to maintain ties and to be kind to them in words and deeds. Even if they wrong you, it is prescribed (mashru') that you forgive people. And as for those who forgive people, how much more so should you forgive your relatives and kin? You are more entitled to forgive them. But if you only maintain ties with those who maintain ties with you, that is a reward, not maintaining ties, as the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said.
The presenter:
We say: Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success, in the hadith of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him).
The Shaykh:
Even if the parent is a disbeliever, even if the parent is a disbeliever, you avoid his disbelief, but you are dutiful to him, treat him well, and maintain your ties with him. His right is not dropped; the right of maintaining ties is not dropped from you. But do not follow him in his religion.[Luqman 31:15] Yes. [Luqman 31:15] Yes.
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success, this is a question the questioner repeated and requested to be presented. He says: What are my obligations to my family and siblings, and their obligations to me? Knowing that some of them were the cause of my repentance, I hope you will guide me, as many problems have occurred between me and them.
The Shaykh:
The obligatory duty is to maintain ties with your relatives; maintaining kinship ties is obligatory and a fard (obligatory) upon you. You must maintain kinship ties even if they cut you off and treat you badly; you should be lenient and forgive them. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said:
Al-Wasil is not the one who recompenses the good done to him by his relatives, but Al-Wasil is the one who keeps good relations with those relatives who had severed the bond of kinship with him.
ليس الواصل بالمكافي ولكن الواصل الذي اذا قطعت رحمه وصلهاTheir right upon you is to maintain ties and to be kind to them in words and deeds. Even if they wrong you, it is prescribed (mashru') that you forgive people. And as for those who forgive people, how much more so should you forgive your relatives and kin? You are more entitled to forgive them. But if you only maintain ties with those who maintain ties with you, that is a reward, not maintaining ties, as the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said.
The presenter:
We say: Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success, in the hadith of Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him).
The Shaykh:
Even if the parent is a disbeliever, even if the parent is a disbeliever, you avoid his disbelief, but you are dutiful to him, treat him well, and maintain your ties with him. His right is not dropped; the right of maintaining ties is not dropped from you. But do not follow him in his religion.
But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness
وَإِن جَاهَدَاكَ عَلَىٰ أَن تُشْرِكَ بِي مَا لَيْسَ لَكَ بِهِ عِلْمٌ فَلَا تُطِعْهُمَا وَصَاحِبْهُمَا فِي الدُّنْيَا مَعْرُوفًاand follow the way of those who turn back to Me [in repentance]. Then to Me will be your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do.
وَاتَّبِعْ سَبِيلَ مَنْ أَنَابَ إِلَيَّ ثُمَّ إِلَيَّ مَرْجِعُكُمْ فَأُنَبِّئُكُم بِمَا كُنتُمْ تَعْمَلُونَ
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، [545 /1350] ما واجب أهلي وإخوتي علي، وواجبي عليهم ؟ الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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