A man wants to get married, but his father opposes him with many excuses, such as that she is not beautiful and so on and so on. What is the guidance?

Question:
A man wants to get married, but his father opposes him and says, "You do not know anything about the matters of marriage; that is, you do not know how to choose the right woman for me, and I will choose for you." Every time we told him that a certain woman was suitable for him, he said, "No, this one is not beautiful, this one does not have long hair, this one has such-and-such, and this one has such-and-such." These are excuses that are not of any importance. So the man who wanted to get married became angry and suffered from a severe psychological illness because he did not want to anger his father, so he gave up thinking about marriage entirely. Is this action correct on the part of the father and the son? That is, does the father have the right to do this? And is the son’s disobedience to him in this matter a sin? And what do you advise them? May Allah reward you and grant you good.

Answer:
There is no doubt that this father’s behavior is a great error. It is obligatory for him to cooperate with his son in chastening himself, and not to stand in the way of his marriage until it reached the point where the son was affected by it and came to hate marriage because of this father’s complications. It is obligatory to cooperate, and the father should strive with all his effort to chaste his son with a righteous wife. It is not a condition for the wife to be perfect in every aspect without any defect; rather, the criterion in this is what the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) established by saying, "Seize the one with religion, and your hands will be dusted." So the criterion is religion. If religion is present in the woman, then other things will be compensated for. But if she is bad in religion, no matter how beautiful she is, no matter what deeds she has, she is not suitable as a wife for a Muslim. Yes.