A man said to his wife, “You are my mother and my father!”

Question:
He says: Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. I used to say to my wife when I was angry, “You are my mother and my father,” and this is a way of appeasing her. I read in the tafsir of Ibn Sa'di (may Allah have mercy on him) a statement about this kind of thing, saying that it is zihar. So I called one of the students of knowledge, and he said there is nothing on you because you did not know the ruling, and that I should not return to such a thing. Sometimes, Honorable Shaykh, such words come out of me, such as saying “O my mother” to my wife, saying “O my mother, do such and such,” because it is a common phrase among us. What is the ruling on that?

Answer:
The ruling is that you go back to the court. Do not obey so-and-so or so-and-so. Go back to the Sharia court, and they will look into your case. Yes.