What is the ruling on the limits of seeing the woman being proposed to?

Question : May Allah reward you. The questioner asks: What are the limits of the Shari'ah-prescribed seeing of the woman being proposed to? And is it permissible to see her hair, her face, and her hands?

Answer : Seeing the woman being proposed to is permissible, but with conditions. The first condition is that he must be determined to marry and proceed with the proposal. The second is that he must be confident that the proposal will be accepted. The third is that it must not be with desire. The fourth is that it must not be in seclusion. How many conditions are there? Four. If any one of these conditions is lacking, the default ruling is that looking is forbidden. We ask Allah for well-being. As for the woman being proposed to, it is permissible for the suitor to look at whatever prompts him to marry her: her face, her hair, her neck, her hands, and her feet. Because all of this incites desire for the woman or fear of her. But, is it permissible to speak with her over the phone?
Yes. Some suitors, once they propose to a woman and she agrees, spend every night staying up late talking to her over the phone with his fiancée, chatting with her before the marriage contract is signed. This is forbidden (haram), because such a suitor is not free from what?
From the stirring of desire, because she is his fiancée, so it is not free from the stirring of desire. Some people claim, and knowledge belongs to Allah, saying, "I speak to her and chat with her to see the extent of her culture and how she speaks, and the like." Glory be to Allah, how bold you are! You already know from before. The point is that speaking to the woman being proposed to over the phone is exactly like speaking to a non-mahram woman, because she is what? A non-mahram, like a woman in the market.
Is it permissible for the woman being proposed to, when she presents herself to the suitor, to wear makeup? I answer him: It is not permissible, because at this point he is not yet her husband, and no one adorns herself for him. Then, if she wears makeup and he enters and finds the reality different from what he saw in the makeup, he will be repelled by her and say, "This is a deceiver," because she deceived him. So in any case, she should appear to him in her natural state. Is it permissible for her to wear beautiful clothes? It is not permissible, people. Is she his wife? Is she his wife? No, she is not his wife. She should appear in ordinary clothes without adornment or beautiful clothing. Is it permissible for her to appear before him wearing perfume?
No, why? Because she is a non-mahram. Now, if he has contracted the marriage, is it permissible for him to see her adorned? Wait a moment. He has contracted the marriage, but he has not yet entered with her in the official consummation. Is it permissible for him to look at her adorned and perfumed, and to be alone with her? May Allah keep you safe, that is fine.