The ruling on a woman refusing to marry a man who is already married

Question:
The questioner says: Honorable Shaykh, I love you for the sake of Allah. Is it permissible for a woman to remain unmarried when a man proposes to her, and he has a wife and children, on the grounds that she wants a virgin man?

Answer:
It is not permissible for a woman to remain without marriage; this is forbidden for her. First, this causes her to waste her years; it causes her to waste her years. Second, this deprives her of offspring. Third, and this is the most severe, it exposes her to fitnah (trial, discord or temptation); it exposes her to fitnah, and exposes her to falling into immorality. This is because a woman needs a man, no matter who she is, and no matter how much she guards herself, she needs a man because of the desire Allah has placed in her. So this exposes her to fitnah.
If it becomes easy for her to marry a man of her choice who has no wife, and if this becomes easy for her, there is no harm. But if it does not become easy, then marrying a man who has another wife is a thousand times and thousands of times better than her remaining a spinster, deprived of husbands. It is not known; perhaps the good is in this husband, even if he has three wives and she is the fourth. Living with women and under the protection of a man who chastes her, and bearing children from him, and being provided for by him, is better than her remaining a spinster.
A woman compares the harm of remaining a spinster with the harm of co-wives. She finds no proportion. She finds that the harm of remaining a spinster is more severe than the harm of living with co-wives and women. Yes.