The Ruling on Patience with a Parent’s Harm and Advising Him

Question:
The first message in this episode is one that reached the program from the United Arab Emirates, sent by one of our daughters from there. She says: A thousand times, a thousand times, I say: I am a girl who is seventeen years old. I have a father who knows Allah well; he is constant in prayer and in the remembrance of Allah the Exalted at all times, and he knows all the laws and rulings of the religion, praise be to Allah. I have a slave woman, and I have a poor mother who prays, fasts, and knows Allah well; she is truly a jewel that cannot be priced. The problem here is my father, for my father has one face with people and another face with us. He always curses my mother and insults her, and it has reached the point of hitting her. He also insults us and hits my younger brothers, and he does not call us by our names. Rather, he compares you, may Allah keep you safe, to animals. Despite this, he loves to accumulate money greatly, and he gives my mother a little money after a big quarrel, and then he comes and curses her in her land, and he says that we have children, and that we are wasteful. And yet my mother is patient; she has no choice but to cry over her condition. We ask you to clarify to us what the reward of my mother is in this situation, and what the reward of my father is with Allah? We ask you for advice, and may Allah reward you with good.

Answer:
Allah, and may Allah send prayers and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad, and upon his family and his Companions. After what the questioner, or the questioner, mentioned about the condition of their father, patience has a good outcome in this world and the Hereafter, especially patience with the harm of a close relative, especially with the harm of a parent or a husband, because patience with that is the continuation of the relationship and good conduct, and because that is a means to the rectification of the wrongdoer and his improvement. Then I advise this husband and this father who is complained about to improve his conduct with his family and his children, and to fear Allah the Exalted and Majestic in them, and to seek the reward and recompense. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: So it is obligatory for this father and this husband to fear Allah the Exalted and Majestic, and to be good to those under his care, his wife and his children, and to make their speech and action pleasant to them, because he is a shepherd over them and is responsible for them, and they are a weak flock under his hand. So let him fear Allah the Exalted in them, and let him not be harsh with them without right, and let him be wise in his conduct and his authority, for the sake of the many benefits and much good that result from that, and the reward with Allah the Exalted and Majestic. Yes.