The ruling on children intervening between their parents to make peace
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Question:
May Allah reward you with good and do you good. Some children intervene between their parents, between the mother and the father, and in doing so they magnify certain issues. Do you have a word to say, Shaykh Salih (may Allah preserve him)?
Answer:
Yes, the children should intervene between their parents to make peace and settle the dispute. They should not intervene to stir up discord or break up the family bond. Rather, their intervention should be productive and beneficial. If not, at the very least, they should remain silent and refrain from intervening except for the sake of good and reconciliation. Reconciliation among people brings much good, especially reconciliation between the parents. Allah the Exalted said:[An-Nisa 4:114]. And because reconciliation between the parents leads to the well-being of the family and the happiness of the family, many benefits follow it in the home and in the family, and it prevents discord between the parents. For if discord creeps in between the parents, it spreads to the family, causing the household and the family to be divided. On the other hand, if the situation between the spouses, between the parents, is good, then this goodness, harmony, and agreement spreads to the members of the family, because the children follow their parents in both good and evil. Yes.
May Allah reward you with good and do you good. Some children intervene between their parents, between the mother and the father, and in doing so they magnify certain issues. Do you have a word to say, Shaykh Salih (may Allah preserve him)?
Answer:
Yes, the children should intervene between their parents to make peace and settle the dispute. They should not intervene to stir up discord or break up the family bond. Rather, their intervention should be productive and beneficial. If not, at the very least, they should remain silent and refrain from intervening except for the sake of good and reconciliation. Reconciliation among people brings much good, especially reconciliation between the parents. Allah the Exalted said:
No good is there in much of their private conversation, except for those who enjoin charity or that which is right or conciliation between people. And whoever does that seeking means to the approval of Allah - then We are going to give him a great reward.
لَّا خَيْرَ فِي كَثِيرٍ مِّن نَّجْوَاهُمْ إِلَّا مَنْ أَمَرَ بِصَدَقَةٍ أَوْ مَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ إِصْلَاحٍ بَيْنَ النَّاسِ وَمَن يَفْعَلْ ذَٰلِكَ ابْتِغَاءَ مَرْضَاتِ اللَّهِ فَسَوْفَ نُؤْتِيهِ أَجْرًا عَظِيمًا
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، 4042- تقول: إن أباها يؤذي أمها ويشتمها، ويؤذي أولاده، وهو بخيل عليهم، فما التوجيه والحال ما ذكر؟ — youtube.com (2:54)
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