What is the ruling on what some people do of displaying the bride and groom in front of the women?
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The questioner : The entry, I mean.
The Shaykh : There is no harm in the palaces, except if it includes something forbidden, such as forbidden singing, or for example what some people do—may Allah keep us safe from it. They call it the "shur'ah" (the display), where they bring out the husband and wife together in front of the women. This is not permissible. This is not permissible, even in ordinary houses. Also, if it is the day of the event, I think it is better to do without it. It is much better to do without these celebrations, because they usually involve a large, tiring gathering, and there may be a lot of food that goes to waste without benefit. So, if they do without it, that would be better. Yes.
The questioner : They used to witness, they used to witness the spirit with the "asid" (a type of porridge), they put it in.
The Shaykh : The army man is.
The questioner : Not the whole bathroom.
The Shaykh : And they see the man. No, we hear that some of them put a chair for them, a chair they call a platform, they bring the husband and wife, and leave them in front of the people. And some of them afterwards give him a sweet, he takes the sweet and leaves it to be sucked from his hand in front of the people, or an apple or something like that. This is undoubtedly an error, a great error, and we warn against it. First, because you know the women in the excitement of the wedding, if it is the husband and wife, or in the first meeting, I mean, the desires may be stirred. Second, there is harm even to the wife herself. Perhaps one of these women appears to be more beautiful than his wife, and he becomes attached to this woman he saw, and his wife becomes nothing to him. This is one of the great things to be warned against. So, the important thing is that this is a trial that people are tested with.
The Shaykh : There is no harm in the palaces, except if it includes something forbidden, such as forbidden singing, or for example what some people do—may Allah keep us safe from it. They call it the "shur'ah" (the display), where they bring out the husband and wife together in front of the women. This is not permissible. This is not permissible, even in ordinary houses. Also, if it is the day of the event, I think it is better to do without it. It is much better to do without these celebrations, because they usually involve a large, tiring gathering, and there may be a lot of food that goes to waste without benefit. So, if they do without it, that would be better. Yes.
The questioner : They used to witness, they used to witness the spirit with the "asid" (a type of porridge), they put it in.
The Shaykh : The army man is.
The questioner : Not the whole bathroom.
The Shaykh : And they see the man. No, we hear that some of them put a chair for them, a chair they call a platform, they bring the husband and wife, and leave them in front of the people. And some of them afterwards give him a sweet, he takes the sweet and leaves it to be sucked from his hand in front of the people, or an apple or something like that. This is undoubtedly an error, a great error, and we warn against it. First, because you know the women in the excitement of the wedding, if it is the husband and wife, or in the first meeting, I mean, the desires may be stirred. Second, there is harm even to the wife herself. Perhaps one of these women appears to be more beautiful than his wife, and he becomes attached to this woman he saw, and his wife becomes nothing to him. This is one of the great things to be warned against. So, the important thing is that this is a trial that people are tested with.
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قناة «فضيلة الشيخ محمد بن صالح العثيمين»، 1997 - 4600 ما حكم مايفعله بعض الناس من ظهور العروس والعريس أمام النساء؟ ابن عثيمين — youtube.com
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