What is your advice to me regarding my dealings with my mother, who is extremely jealous of my wife?

Question:
May Allah reward you, Honorable Shaykh. This questioner says: My mother is advanced in age, and I live with her and my wife. She is extremely jealous of my wife and tries to pry into our marital secrets, then she spreads them to some of my sisters, who are also eager to hear them. So I spoke to her about this, but when I speak to her about it, she gets angry with me and gives me the cold shoulder. She locks herself in her room, and I try to win her affection with gifts. In truth, these behaviors and the length of time have caused me to develop feelings of resentment toward her in my heart. Sometimes I get angry, sometimes I do not agree with her on certain matters, and sometimes I disobey her. So what is your guidance for me, especially since, praise be to Allah, I know the verses and hadiths regarding the virtue of being dutiful to parents? Do I incur sin in my actions?

Answer:
We advise you of two things. The first is to be patient with your mother, and you will be rewarded, if Allah wills. Treat her well, even if she does something you dislike; be patient with it and treat her well. The second is to have your wife live in a separate residence, as long as living together in the house causes harm. You should look for a residence for your wife and keep her away from your mother, and perhaps the problem will end, if Allah wills.