Advising parents to care for their daughters and monitor them
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Question:
This is a woman who says that often the advice given to parents is to prevent their sons from the company of bad people, but we have not heard anyone advise parents regarding the girls and the mistakes they make, such as what relates to mobile phones and other things.
Answer:
Yes, this is a pertinent question and a useful reminder. We should not focus only on the boys, meaning the sons. Rather, the girls, because girls nowadays have become like the boys; they go out for study, they go out to the markets, and in fact, they go out more than the boys. You find that most of the boys are sleeping at home from fatigue, but the girl does not sleep. She is active in going out, and Satan beautifies that for her and pushes her to go out, so she is more deserving and more entitled to be protected, to be advised, and to be regulated, because she is a trial. Her trial is more severe than the trial of the boys.
So one should be alert regarding the girls. It is obligatory for the guardian of the girls to care for them, to monitor them, and to follow up on them. For the danger to them is more severe, especially in this time in which mixing has increased, the mixing of people, girls, and boys. Mixing has increased, so the trial is more severe and the caution is greater.
So the guardians of the girls must be meticulous in their affairs. They must follow up on them and regulate them, because they are a trust in their necks.
And the corruption of the girl disfigures the entire family, and there is no power and no strength except with Allah. It disfigures the family and the entire house. And this girl becomes of no value in society. So it is death. A death more severe than the death that is the end of life. It is death to manliness, death to modesty, and death to religion and morals.
So the guardian of the girl must seek help from Allah, be patient, and follow up on her until he hands her over to her husband. If someone comes to him whose religion and trustworthiness he is pleased with, he hands her over to him in marriage. Otherwise, he is responsible for her[An-Nisa 4:34] [At-Tahrim 66:6].
The presenter:
May Allah reward you,
This is a woman who says that often the advice given to parents is to prevent their sons from the company of bad people, but we have not heard anyone advise parents regarding the girls and the mistakes they make, such as what relates to mobile phones and other things.
Answer:
Yes, this is a pertinent question and a useful reminder. We should not focus only on the boys, meaning the sons. Rather, the girls, because girls nowadays have become like the boys; they go out for study, they go out to the markets, and in fact, they go out more than the boys. You find that most of the boys are sleeping at home from fatigue, but the girl does not sleep. She is active in going out, and Satan beautifies that for her and pushes her to go out, so she is more deserving and more entitled to be protected, to be advised, and to be regulated, because she is a trial. Her trial is more severe than the trial of the boys.
So one should be alert regarding the girls. It is obligatory for the guardian of the girls to care for them, to monitor them, and to follow up on them. For the danger to them is more severe, especially in this time in which mixing has increased, the mixing of people, girls, and boys. Mixing has increased, so the trial is more severe and the caution is greater.
So the guardians of the girls must be meticulous in their affairs. They must follow up on them and regulate them, because they are a trust in their necks.
And the corruption of the girl disfigures the entire family, and there is no power and no strength except with Allah. It disfigures the family and the entire house. And this girl becomes of no value in society. So it is death. A death more severe than the death that is the end of life. It is death to manliness, death to modesty, and death to religion and morals.
So the guardian of the girl must seek help from Allah, be patient, and follow up on her until he hands her over to her husband. If someone comes to him whose religion and trustworthiness he is pleased with, he hands her over to him in marriage. Otherwise, he is responsible for her
Men are in charge of women
الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِprotect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones
قُوا أَنفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُThe presenter:
May Allah reward you,
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، محاضرات في العقيدة والدعوة-027-الرقية الشرعية أحكام وضوابط|صالح الفوزان|كبار العلماء — youtube.com (28:03)
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