In the hadith, "I used to forbid you from visiting the graves, but now visit them." Why does this exception not include women?

Question:
Honorable Shaykh, may Allah grant you success. He says: In the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) He asks: Why does the exception here not include the women of the believers, so that it is permissible for them to visit?

Answer:
In general, it includes them, but this was excluded and specified by the saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him): "May Allah curse the women who visit graves and those who make them into mosques and hang lamps on them." Thus, women are forbidden from visiting graves, and he cursed the one who does so, linking it to those who make them into mosques and hang lamps on them. Therefore, women's visitation of graves is prohibited due to this hadith. What does the one who permits it do with this hadith? It is a hadith that breaks the back; there is no room for permissibility in it.