There is no blame on the father for his heart’s inclination toward one of his children over the others
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Question:
May Allah reward you. He says: Shaykh, how does a father treat his sons and daughters equally if he is inclined to one of them more in love and treatment?
Answer:
One cannot be just in love, because it is an action of the heart and an inclination of the heart. He is unable to make his children equal in love.
But he must not favor the one he loves and give him more than his brothers by giving him some money that his brothers do not get.
So justice is only in the gift. As the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said to the one who gave a gift to some of his children, he said to him: Yes.
May Allah reward you. He says: Shaykh, how does a father treat his sons and daughters equally if he is inclined to one of them more in love and treatment?
Answer:
One cannot be just in love, because it is an action of the heart and an inclination of the heart. He is unable to make his children equal in love.
But he must not favor the one he loves and give him more than his brothers by giving him some money that his brothers do not get.
So justice is only in the gift. As the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said to the one who gave a gift to some of his children, he said to him:
Did you give all your children like this? He said: No. He said: I bear witness to this, and I do not bear witness to injustice. And he said: Fear Allah and be just among your children.
هل كل ولدك أعطيت مثل هذا؟ قال لا، قال أشهد على هذا غيري، فإني لا أشهد على جور، وقال اتقوا الله واعدلوا بين أولادكم.
Source
قناة «العلامة الدكتور صالح الفوزان»، لا حرج على الوالد في ميله القلبي لأحد أولاده دون غيره – الشيخ صالح الفوزان — youtube.com
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