The Importance of Raising Girls with Modesty and Shame

Question:
May Allah reward you. This is a sister asking. She says: Some people, O Shaykh, have daughters who are nine and ten years old, and they are lax in dressing them in the Islamic dress. When we advise them that these are women and are of age, they say, "You are overcomplicating things; these are still young."

Answer:
It is obligatory for the father to raise his children, both male and female, in accordance with the rulings of the Shari'ah, with modesty and shame. It is obligatory for him to do so because they are his dependents under his care, and he is responsible for them. The head of the household is a shepherd responsible for his flock, as the Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) said. Therefore, he must not raise the young in violation of the Shari'ah rulings, neither in dress nor in anything else. Rather, he must raise them with integrity, modesty, and shame, and they should grow up accustomed to modest clothing and develop an aversion to what contradicts it. This is not a matter of overcomplication, as the person quoted above claims. The rulings of the Shari'ah contain no overcomplication, praise be to Allah; rather, they are a facilitation and mercy for the community. It is obligatory for the one who forbids what is wrong to do so, and it is obligatory for the one who guides to do so. They are not to be described as overcomplicating matters. Rather, the one who is described as overcomplicating matters is the one who seeks to lead the community and his children astray from the straight path. Yes.